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  • [-]This is the time when you curse your wealthy parents who left you no inheritence.

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    10.13.08, 07:56 AM [ Flag ]
    • No, I wouldn't do that. Their money is their money. No wealth in my family, though.

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      10.13.08, 07:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • OP. On a rational level I agree with you. In my case, father left all money to second wife and children he had with second wife (3 sons), which really makes me bitter, when I think about having to pay my way through grad school and pay back my debts and take care of my mother and support my kids.

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        10.13.08, 08:04 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I feel for you. My Dad is a jerk. Plenty of cash. He knows DH and I are having tought times but hasn't offered anything. He didn't contribute to my life financially growing up (divorced) wouldn't expect anything now, but just feels rotten to think you have a parent that could be there for you if need be, but wouldn't. I am thinking of cutting all times to him b/c I think, if he couldn't be here in a crisis, why bother. It's not about money, need to stand on our own feet, but it jsut seems wrong. My MIL, who has so much less, offered us an interest-free loan if needed. We won't take anything, but makes me @$#%$#.

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      10.13.08, 08:01 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  • [-]anyone here deliver at the birthing center at St. Luke's/Roosevelt? trying to help advise a newly pg friend decide where to give birth in NYC, and I feel like I've heard good things about this place. she's in brooklyn though. would it be too far? any good alternatives in brooklyn?

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    10.08.08, 10:37 AM [ Flagged ]
    • a few of my friends (one very recently) and both loved it. That's not for me..I gave birth in the same building but in the labor and delivery dept. I think where in Brklyn depends if the schlepp to manhattan is worth it or wise

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      10.08.08, 10:38 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
      • carroll gardens

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        10.08.08, 10:42 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
        • I lived in Carroll Gardens and delivered at Cornell. Lots of my friends delivered at other hospitals too in Manhattan. I think the only Brooklyn Hospital I would think about giving birth at is Maimonides.

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          10.08.08, 10:46 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
          • thanks. i think that her current ob/gyn delivers at Cornell, so maybe she should just stay there. i'd heard some good things (long ago) about LICH, but it seems that maybe they've closed their maternity ward. anyone know?

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            10.08.08, 10:48 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
            • Cornell is a great hospital, and has some of the best OBs, but she should hire a doula if she wants natural childbirth there. VERY unlikely to acheive it there without one--and high risk of "emergency" c/s. btdt.

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              10.08.08, 10:51 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
            • Cornell is the best. I think it may rate higher than St. Lukes. I had a very good experience. It just depends what she's looking for. The Birthing Center is a much different experience than the White Coat Hospital experience at Cornell.

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              10.08.08, 10:51 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
              • "Best" and ratings are highly subjective in the case of l&d. For complications, Cornell is best hands down; for the vast majority of deliveries, SLR is better (lower c/s rates, lower intervention rates, etc). -signed, cornell responder above.

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                10.08.08, 10:55 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
                • Hmm the only friends I know that gave birth and St. Lukes had C Sections.

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                  10.08.08, 11:36 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
    • advise her to give birth the only decent place there is--home! Not crawling with staph, no medical personnel who have their malpractice insurance premiums as their main concern, utter privacy and control over your body... the perfect place to give birth.

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      10.08.08, 10:40 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
      • np: that may be perfect for YOU but that is far from perfect for many ppl.

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        10.08.08, 10:40 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
        • just throwing in my opinion... take it or leave it, I'm not trying to start a debate

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          10.08.08, 10:42 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
          • well it's the way you worded your opinion. You told OP to tell her the ONLY decent place is home. That was more than just you throwing your opinion out

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            10.08.08, 10:44 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
            • but that's my opinion. If someone had said "give birth at Lenox Hill, it's the best!" would you have such a violent reaction?

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              10.08.08, 10:45 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
              • I have issues with your wording...you saying it's the only decent place. It was very judgemental toward those who wouldn't do it at home and to Drs too. Like I said it was your wording.

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                10.08.08, 10:48 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
      • I smell a set up post...

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        10.08.08, 10:41 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
      • not in a billion years would i do that. btw, i gave birth at st lukes/roosevelt and it was a very good experience, considering that i ended up having a complicated delivery (including, among other things, a vacuum delivery and two nights in the ICU for me). giving birth at home would have been disastrous for me.

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        10.08.08, 10:43 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
        • snort

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          10.08.08, 10:46 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
          • wow, you are a peach. who are you go judge her? -np (who is a big fan of natural childbirth, btw).

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            10.08.08, 10:48 AM [ Flagged | link to this post ]
            • I read this same reasoning all over the place, and it's just so misguided, so yes, I do judge it. It makes me sad that women don