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My niece is 10 YO and not one of the "nicest" girls I know. I know that is mean to say, but it's true. My brother and SIL have called the school to find out why she doesn't have any friends and was told "she needs to learn to get along with others." Fine, I agree and they are working on this. But they recently bought her a cell phone because she wanted one and to "help her with friends". I'm sorry but I don't get it. And I know it's none of my business except that my brother is very upset by everything. SIL also called some of the mothers to find out why their daughters don't like her daughter. She said none of them called her back. I feel bad but how can you help people who are not making situation better only much worse?
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11.16.09, 04:28 AM [ Flag ]
- they are not making it worse by giving her a phone. They are all texting each other at that age, so they are trying to include her. They seem to be trying hard. You on the other hand are not even trying to help
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  11.16.09, 04:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I'm trying to stay out of it. Like I said, she is not one of the nicest girls I know. I'm very good friends with one of her teachers last year. It was sad to hear that my niece is mean-she's arrogant (well that I knew, I can see it), she pulls other girls hair, stole someone's purse-not nice. I just thought she was just not nice, not a "bully".
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    11.16.09, 04:43 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - If it's true she did those things, it may very likely be because the girls are being mean to her and she doesn't know how to react. Most likely those girls are the "bullies" and not your niece, but she is acting out because no one is nice to her (including you). She needs to be helped to ignore that and make her own friends.
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      11.16.09, 05:11 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - OR- I agree, time for OP to step up and help her niece, instead of being mean and pulling her family down
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        11.16.09, 05:25 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I actually don't think that the cell phone is going to make things worse -- you don't say that she's spoiled and demanding, just that she's aggressive and doesn't get along with other kids. Parents are trying to help her make friends, which is what she needs. Refusing to get her a cell phone because she's "mean" seems punitive in a counterproductive way.
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  11.16.09, 07:22 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]