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I think that I may have offended a friend. She recently had a miscarriage and in the email I sent her (she's overseas), I said, "I'll be thinking of you, DH and your baby." She's prolife/religious and referred to the pregnancy as her baby, several times, but even so, DH said that was weird of me to say. WDYT?
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11.20.09, 11:40 AM [ Flag ]
- I think you meant well and if I were the friend I would recognize that and not give it another thought. Don't worry you are fine.
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  11.20.09, 11:42 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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    11.20.09, 11:43 AM [ | ]
- I wouldn't have said it.
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  11.20.09, 11:43 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - ditto
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    11.20.09, 04:43 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I had a miscarriage last year. I would not be offended, I would be touched. I think one of the things that hurts after having a miscarriage is when people kind of dismiss the lost--there will be another, things happen for a reason, etc. So recognizing that she felt it was a baby was pretty sweet, IMO.
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  11.20.09, 11:44 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I don't think it's weird at all. If she was referring to it as a baby, then she feels the loss of the pregnancy is in fact the loss of a baby.
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  11.20.09, 11:44 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- i think it was very nice to acknowledge her loss as a baby. it was not weird.
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  11.20.09, 11:45 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Not weird. Nice.
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  11.20.09, 11:52 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - ITA.
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    11.20.09, 05:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Agreed... very sweet and well intended.
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  11.20.09, 12:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Hmmmmmm.... I personally wouldn't have written that. I probably wouldn't be offended, but it might have stung a little.
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  11.20.09, 05:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I doubt she would be offended by that. I had several miscarriages and fully understood that no one knows what to say, and I just appreciated the acknowledgment of the loss no matter what people said.
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  11.20.09, 05:28 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]