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refresh »[-]Anyone else pretend it takes a lot longer to pump at work than it does? Just so no one will bug you?
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[-]due with #2 on friday and i feel like someone punched me in my vagina. so sore! a sign of labor?
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[-]Can someone please help me? 3 yo dd simply cannot stop hurting 16 mo ds. All day, if I turn my back for even 10 seconds, it's her pushing him down on his back, smacking him in the face, throwing things at him/his face, pinching his cheeks hard, lying on top of him, squeezing her legs around his neck ... I kid you not. We do not do this rough stuff ourselves, so I am really at a loss. Very serious and consistent time outs are not working. Is this normal? What would you do?
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op: I never know if the replies on this board are serious, but assuming you are, I should add that she does not do this stuff with other kids, just her brother.
[ Reply | Options ]I'm serious, she seems to have very agressive/violent feelings for her brother and that isn't safe. i'm not saying she's mentally ill or anything like that but someone needs to get to the root of it and make her see it can and will seriously hurt him eventually.
[ Reply | Options ]op: I don't know how anyone would get to the root of anything with a 3 yo. She's not exactly a sophisticate when it comes to expressing herself. Though I certainly wish I could.
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rudolf dreikurs suggests that you give your older child opportunities to help you with the baby. lots of help. also, another suggestion is to baby the older child if that is what she wants, including spoon feeding her, putting her down to a nap when the infant goes to sleep, holding and rocking her. she will begin to hate it and wnat her indepenedecne again.
[ Reply | Options ]We had a bit of this for awhile. It seemed to help to let them be alone together, actually (I would usually eavesdrop or pretend I was busy but really watch). Once my older one got to like the little one, the acting out stopped a bit. I only see aggressive behavior like this now when #1 is really wanting my attention
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[-]Does cio solve the multiple night wakings? Right now we're rocking db to sleep, and we don't mind that, but he waking 4 times a night, and it's killing us. He's 6.5 mos and bf'ed. Is it time to cio?
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[-]going to las vegas for girls wkend. best place to stay for nice spa, good food and fun going out scene? tia.
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[-]What types of items (clothing, etc.) do you wish you would see more of for kids in the city?
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[-]Tipping question: What do you tip for a basic hair cut/style? What do you tip for a massage?
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[-]ok, lay it on me. did CIO work for you? why? why not? also, what temperment is your db, easy or challenging?
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second dd had very easy temp and it wasn't even cio- we laid her down and she went to sleep. First db, we tried everything in the book before we ended up with a sleep consultant and doing cio. It was awful- she cried a lot and fell asleep sitting up in her crib. We hung in there even though I had always deplored the concept of cio. OUr whole family was having health and well being issues related to her sleep issues before we got to this point. It took a week and she slept through the night ever since (we did it at 11 mos). She is also a happy, confident, attached 4 yo now so my fears of "damaging" her by cio were unfounded. Every dc is different. For us, we had to try other approaches before we could resort to cio or we wouldn't ...
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[-]My husband and I were recently reminiscing about the birth of our child five years ago and the music that reminds us of that special time. Music seems to define my life experiences: 80s pop in high school; grunge in college; and Joni Mitchell, HEM, and Van Morrison for the amazing day in 2003 when we welcomed our precious Alexander into the world. Now I'm kind of obsessed with learning what music people had playing just before, during or after giving birth. I did find this beautiful post that's worth a read: http://jamsbio.com/user/norah28/mother_music/
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[-]When you and dh aren't speaking because of an argument, who is the one to break the silence first?
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[-]btdt moms: how long is this phase going to last? 2yo dd transitioned out of crib weeks ago and still puts up a huge fight each night, runs around room and eventually passes out on the floor. she was such a good sleeper since birth that this just really gets to me. How much longer will this go on?
37 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]sit or lay next to her and read until she's asleep. Once she is comfortable in her new bed stop reading when she's almost asleep, then sleepy, etc, etc...
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a musical pull toy worked for us, you know the kind that usually hangs in the crib...hung it over the new bed, i turn off the light, tuck db in, pull the cord, and i'm out of there...sometimes she pulls it again, sometimes just falls asleep.....anyway, just say goodnight and turn off the light, get out of the room, and if your db wants to run around and pass out on the floor, so be it...put her in bed once asleep and voila
[ Reply | Options ]Just make sure her room is safe. My ds did this for quite a while. Also, I would go back into his room and put him back in the bed. Each time saying - "stay in your bed" - he still get's up some (about 6 mos later), but hasn't slept on the floor in months and months. gl - this too shall pass. fwiw - I disagree about laying next to her till she falls asleep.
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