[-]Anyone crave citrus and fruit while pregnant instead of junk food?
25 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]granny smith apples... and alcohol! (Don't worry, i only indulged one of those cravings... ; )
[ Reply | Options ]Pears. I've had more pears in the last 9 months than I've had in 30 years of my life.
[ Reply | Options ]haha I craved citrus junk food like starbursts and skittles, but let me tell you, it was the only thing that kept my morning sickness undercontrol
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i found her dismissive, distracted and kind of a phoney bitch!. she asked me every visit if I "did fertility treatments" (i'm 37), even though I told her each time, no this was an unplanned pregnancy. I didn't want ultrasounds on every visit, but when i asked ways to see if the pregnancy was progressing (like monitoring hgc, etc) she snapped at me and said "if you're worried, get the ultrasound, if you don't want it, just be happy". my blood pressure was in the 70/50 range all during the 1st tri and she said "my patients don't have problems with their blood pressure" ??? the best was each appointment she came in with a phoney smile and said "i'm glad you're here"
[ Reply | Options ]^^ also - it's like night and day with the new ob so i don't think i was being overly critical with worth... maybe she was having a tough time coincidentally when i was seeing her but it just wasn't worth trying it again.
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[-]Moms with babies born during this flu season: What is your plan for going out, especially if you have an older child? I would like to carry on with our usual routines, but I am paranoid about exposing nb to crowds, germs, etc. in libraries, at classes, school, etc. Normally, I am not germaphobe, but with all the hysteria surrounding the swine flu, I am concerned. Entire family except for nb has had the swine flu vaccine.
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]are you nursing? You pass on your immunities to db while nursing, so that's the best prevention.
[ Reply | Options ]op: yes, I am nursing. So based on the responses, everyone else is staying home for 3 months? What about your older kids? They are not going to want to be cooped up for all of that time.
[ Reply | Options ]My ped. said to avoid public places for 6 weeks because if they get a fever in those first 6 weeks, they will be automatically hospitalized. So try to farm out your older kids as best as possible during that time. After that, you just need to use common sense; your nursing will provide some protection. Your whole family can't stay inside for 3 months.
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[-]Had to give up breastfeeding at 6 weeks due to db having a milk protein allergy, and although I know that it was necessary, I am still upset that I had to give it up. I know I tried as much as I could, even went on a dairy free diet and everything. I am not depressed or anything, but I'm totally obsessed. I see others breastfeeding their babies, and I get so upset that I had to stop. Anyone bt?
18 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]yup. dc had milk protein allergies AND i have inverted nipples AND he had latch issues AND i had mastitis AND i had ppd. i pumped for 7 months and felt like sh&t because i couldn't do more. but you know what? i did what i could and so have you. your dc will be healthy and happy and will never remember if he was bf'd or not. let go and enjoy your beautiful db.
[ Reply | Options ]Yes. My first had severe latch issues--even after 2 months of pumping and trying everything, lactations consultants, etc, I gave up. I felt terrible about it, and wondered what I did wrong--she just never took to it! I've since had 3 children who all breastfed easily, so I still wonder why it didn't work out with dd.
[ Reply | Options ]I have BTDT. My child had/has severe reactions to dairy as well as bad reflux and I powered through. Proud to say he's never had an ounce of formula. It was brutal but has gotten much better. Why was it necessary to give up bf-ing? How come modifying your diet didn't have an impact?
[ Reply | Options ]I couldn't bf either because my dd was biting down (with her gums) and I ended up with welts and bruises. I used to cry when bottle feeding her and would go into the breastfeeding rooms when we were out b/c I felt like all the BF moms were judging me. She is now 2, smart and everything but the regret I have hasn't gone away. I actually cried for about a week b/c I wanted to but I just couldn't.
[ Reply | Options ]I exclusively bf for two months and then was told that my baby was not gaining well due to acid reflux. Freaked me out (even though doc and husband assured me no big deal), completely undermined my self-confidence that I knew what to do. I started supplementing with formula and stopped bfeeding around 4 months. I regret it everyday (dd now 7 months, is fine and wonderful but can't believe that I just didn't stick with it)
[ Reply | Options ]I'm sorry this was your experience. I think what you describe is common and that more women would breastfeed through these types of challenges if the social support were there. Sorry you didn't have that. Stinks to have regret. But I'm sure your dd is healthy and thriving, so enjoy!
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I'm surprised the with a totally dairy free diet that you couldn't have kept going.
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sometimes people think they are dairy free, but not. daity is everywhere in the form of whey, cassein. also, some babies who react to dairy also react to soy, which is also everywhere (soy lecithin in bread). signed, mom who gave up all traces of dairy and soy for 12 months of bfing.
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[-]HELP! My 8 month old still wakes up twice through the night for bottles. She used to sleep through the night. I need some SLEEP! Tips?
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i cant just let her scream if, in fact, she is hungry. not only do I not WANT to let her cry, but she wakes up my hubby (who's up for work at 6am)
[ Reply | Options ]an 8 mo old does not need to eat during the night if she eats enough during the day. You can try soothing her back to sleep instead of feeding her - she may still cry a bit but your dh should be able to deal - plenty of WOHMs get up during night to deal with babies. Or at least try to get he two one bottle per night by soothing the first time and then wait for her to grow out of it.
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I don't know--if you read Weissbluth's sleep book, he says that some babies still get up 1-2x a night to eat and then go right back to sleep and that's normal...after nine months, not normal or if they don't go right back to sleep/want to play, it's not normal and is a bad habit...
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[-]Anyone know the NY family legal system well? I'm not in a relationship with my baby's father. I dont agree with his lifestyle at all and he is not responsible, wont get a real full time job etc (because apparently he is destined to be famous- ha!). I want to get child support - even tho he probably wont give me much since he wont work and I have a very good income - but I still need help!
15 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]file for support. just understand that he has parental rights too. (and don't make fun of the man, you had a kid with him)
[ Reply | Options ]I kept my baby because I love her... I 'had a kid with him' because I really liked that bottle of wine. I think men who refuse to step up and take on responsibility of any kind are kind of a joke.
[ Reply | Options ]Please its the same with divorce. My ex DH turned out to be a loser, you never know sometimes
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Well, since you think he is so bad, why would you want to open the door for possible visitation rights with db? I am in same situation, and did not pursue $ from father, as I did not want dc to be with him at all. And he has never wanted to see dc, so it makes life simpler for me.
[ Reply | Options ]didn't know if there was a way to get financial support but only have to give limited/supervised limitation. He wants visitation but not any responsibility.
[ Reply | Options ]Well, no judge is going to take your word that he is unfit father. So you would need to prove i. Big $$. And be careful, he gets a clever lawyer, and you might end up paying support to him if he is not working but wants to see child.
[ Reply | Options ]i hope an email from his mom confirming his coke use, photos of him partying all night through my pregnancy at weird parties with naked guys and his living in a 5x7 room with no bathroom kitchen or water would suffice??
[ Reply | Options ]It would help, but you would be surprised in NY. I had page 6 story about dh's drug use to back up my side of the story, and judge would not discuss it.
[ Reply | Options ]Can I just ask though, why do you want to have any contact with such a f-up? It surely can't be about the money? Do you want to get him to become more responsible? Why do you care at this point? Isn't it time to move on, and not even think about this guy and his problems? You sound great, maybe you should get on with your life, meet someone else etc.
[ Reply | Options ]Its one of the options I'm considering.. and would prefer. But I think I get a little freaked out about finances, with the nanny and the bigger apartment... and also think he should grow up and take some responsibility. I know he wants to know her but then I feel that it should be in moderation and with him contributing financially
[ Reply | Options ]I guess you would have to get a 3rd party to supervise, (I am assuming you don't want to have to hang around) It would be nice for db to have relationship with dad, perhaps set up school fund for db, have hi contribute into it, after 6 months or so of regular payments, maybe consider visits of a few hours at a time. Unless you want to go to court etc, you could perhaps figure out something between you. And with his parents too?
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[-]i have the worst dandruff--it is just gross and I am mortified
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[-]Looking to donate some baby items - baby swing, exersaucer, etc...Does anyone know of a place that will take such donations on the UES? I know there is a Good Will, but it's a bit far north - looking for something in the 70s. Thanks!
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[-]Any feedback on CBS midwifery? or any recommendation for a midwife?
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[-]i am having my first miscarriage. i am going in for a d&c next monday. this pregnancy was the result of ivf (my second cycle) so i have missed a good amount of work for my egg retrieval, transfer adn all the monitoring. my boss hasnt asked any questions and has been totally accomodating. i havent told her what is going on, but thinking that maybe i should just to not seem like i am taking advantage... thougths?
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I would tell her that you need Monday off b/c you have a doctor's appointment. It's direct but if she asks why you need the whole day off you might have to tell her. Maybe you could also send her an e-mail and tell her that way, if it would be to emotional for you to do it in person. Tell her also that you appreciate how accommodating she has been through all of this before you tell her that you need the day off.
[ Reply | Options ]Sorry! It is a bit awkward. I would just say it is a procedure related to IVF. Offer to work some time this weekend to make up for missed time. I would rather that than feel that boss is too intimate with my life. It makes them think less of you.
[ Reply | Options ]she doesnt know that i am goingthrough ivf now either (i just returned from maternity leave earlier this year too)
[ Reply | Options ]Could you just call in with suspected flu? Naughty, but the perfect excuse at the moment.
[ Reply | Options ]thats probably what i am going to do. i just feel badly about all the work i am missing - preschool application process, doc appts for 15yo DS, ivf monitoring.... it just feels like i am taking advantage...
[ Reply | Options ]Maybe offer to do a couple of hours extra here and there, or finish up something at the weekends? Boss will appreciate acknowledgement of their flexibility.
[ Reply | Options ]I would even take Monday and Tuesday, get doctor to write a note saying you should not return to work until wednesday..rest up, and get ready for another round. I have started arranging doctors visits at weekends, and some pks do weekend visits too...it is a fulltime job doing the pk thing, as well as working, and not feeling well. Look after yourself..GL
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It depends on your relationship with your boss. I told mine when I had a miscarriage since I had to miss work. We weren't close, but his wife had had a few mcs and he was extremely understanding. I think it's better to explain that you are having a miscarriage than say "it's a procedure related to IVF" and most people will be very understanding. Unless you think your boss will have an issue with you becoming pregnant, I think telling her the truth is best in this case.
[ Reply | Options ]How would your boss react if she knew that you are trying to get pregnant? Is your office environment supportive of pregnant women and moms? If so, I think I would tell her because you have will likely try IVF again (right?) and it will just be easier to have it out there. But only you can know what is best for your situation. Sorry about the mc. My heart goes out to you.
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[-]We're expecting twins, and are very excited! We're interviewing baby nurses, and have spoken to two in particular who seem really wonderful. What's the going daily rate in Manhattan for a live-in baby nurse taking care of two? We will probably hire her for two months.
13 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I had an agency quote me 225 for a twins 24 hour baby nurse, and another baby nurse quote me $300 for twins. Of course, you can always go higher...
[ Reply | Options ]225 from an agency. Wow, the times, they are a changin'. When I was looking 2 years ago, the agencies were quoting 250-275 for one baby but you could find one directly for 225-250
[ Reply | Options ]We are probably looking at somewhere between 250-350 per day, from baby nurses who are unaffiliated with agencies. We haven't heard anything outrageously expensive, and nothing bargain basement either. We will need a nanny once the baby nurse leaves, but we're on the fence about whether to get someone just for during the day, or for 24 hour care. We're a two-career household. Thoughts?
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Not mine, but DH's malignant melanoma when DC was 20 m/o. Life revolved around getting DH through treatment with minimal disruption to DB's life. Thankfully, she has 4 wonderful grandparents who were willing and able to take her for days at a time on no notice. There were a lot of tears and a lot of prayers. 4 years later, he's cancer free, but I am a nightmare about sunscreen on DD - she's as fair-skinned as he is.
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I have been relatively healthy. However, I have dealt with my father having been on life support for 12 years, with the first full year in the hospital and regular long stints thereafter. As well as 1 full year of my little brother in intensive care before dying. I become super vigilant, organized and in charge. I'm definitely someone you want on your team in a crisis. It will be interesting to see how I handle it when it's my own illness.
[ Reply | Options ]mild-moderate scoliosis, malignant melanoma and HPV. Scoliosis never required surgery/brace, melanoma was caught early and HPV has been kept in check ( by the way, about 40% of the population is estimated to have HPV). I have always felt very fortunate!
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[-]I think having a daughter has changed me. Mostly, for the better! I am more aware of my own behavior, relationships, lifestyles, as I want to be a role model for her. I know I won't always get it perfectly. I just look around and see that the world isn't always that kind to girls or include the positive influences for them. Does anyone else feel this way?
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Having a dd has me very worried, esp living in NYC. I hope I am a good example, and I was a good kid growing up, but I see girls on the bus/subway and listening to what they say freaks me out - girls that seem so young talking about sex, drugs, etc. I guess it is the same worries for boys and girls, but with a girl I really worry what the next 20 yrs will be like!
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