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refresh »[-]My DH really went all out on Mother's day (my first) and i'd like to do something nice for him too. Thought nice picture frame w/pic for his office, a new dop kit bag (saw one that hangs and you can put a pic in it) and something fun and creative, silly to get something from one of those pottery places? ds's handprint in it? any other ideas?
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[-]Am I silly to even consider private ongoing for ds since I will need major FA to do so? I am open to applying all over the city and will move if the commute isn't great, but I also don't want to waste anyones time if getting aid isn't an option. Income $100K. Single parent.
28 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]if it were me, I'd move someplace where they have good public schools (prob out of the city)
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No, you are not silly. Ongoing schools offer FA for a reason and 10-20% of students get FA at most schools we've looked at. I have a client who tried to talk her very bright daughter out of applying to boarding school bc she's a single parent making $50K and could not fathom how it could be affordable. Well, her daughter got a nearly full ride, I believe her mom contributes less than $5K to the total cost of $35K. She's so happy her daughter insisted on applying.
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If you can, have DC take the ERBs over the summer. If your DC scores well and interviews well - sky's the limit.
[ Reply | Options ]I just cannot imagine doing that. find a good public and spend time with your kid, showing him you can actually afford him, that you are not poor victims getting a free ride and that he will be fine not having the fanciest of the fancy
[ Reply | Options ]ITA! I just couldn't make my kids see me as needing a handout since I earn $100K per year and have worked very hard to do that. Feel it would complicate the image my kids have of me as a single mom. would not feel strong and capable in their eyes. I am an MD, btw.
[ Reply | Options ]You cant be serious. How exactly are you needing a handout? FA is an available option for ALL families. I would hope your kids would see that you had their best interest at heart when you put them in private school. Instead put them in Gen Ed, I'm sure you'll be quite amazed at what you see.
[ Reply | Options ]np; you know, it's not like you are a beggar at a private if your dc gets scholarship. It's the school that wants to add socioeconomic diversity to their school to benefit them. I totally disagree. There are many kids on scholarship who would tell you they are very happy and many families that are not paranoid like you.
[ Reply | Options ]np. i'm sorry but "socioeconomic diversity" (by which you actually mean "economic diversity") is a crock of sh&t. there's nothing about poor people my dc needs to learn from a classmate. btdt, but actually managed to pull myself up by my bootstraps.
[ Reply | Options ]OR: I don't really care what other familes think, nor do I feel paranoid about it. I am a well educated woman who has worked very hard. I am not poor, and cannot justify to MYSELF taking aid to educate my dcs. I feel it sets a bad example for them, and t goes against the values I want to teach them. If someone needs real help, then fine. If not, you make decisions to afford what fits your ability to pay. I feel that is a worthy thing to teach, and could care less about others
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this is just ridiculous. Find a good public? You need to live in a very $$$$ school zone for a good public and even the good publics are now overcrowded and not a guarantee anymore (like PS 41 moving to a lottery). Getting FA for a school is not showing your dc anything. Why should you tell your dc that they are there on aid? BTW FA doesn't mean full ride. Private doesn't mean fancy either.
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You won't be able to afford rent in good gen ed zone with that income. I looked into PS87 rental for 2BR, and it was well over $4,000 a month. You could try to G&T if you have a super smart/good tester kid. But why not apply to private and public and see which option you end up with? You may NOT have any option in this tough environment... I'm sad to say.
[ Reply | Options ]OP will change her mind once she takes a good look at local zoned public. She will be running to interviews trying to land a good private. If you havent been paying attention DOE is a nightmare and only those fortunate enough to live in excellent districts benefit from the best that the DOE has to offer. EVERYBODY else falls by the wayside.
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Definitely consider independent schools--they give millions of dollars in aid. You should be prepared to answer questions if there is another parent--schools want to know who will be responsible and may factor in the other salary. They expect both parents, married or not, to contribute to the child's education. (I'm a single, adoptive parent who receives aid, btw.)
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[-]Does anyone have any OTC cream recommendations for a child with mild eczema? I don't want to use hydrocortizone. Anyone have anything that works?
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[-]Can you apply to a lottery only school even if you are not zoned for it (i.e Earth School)?
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[-]No background in the field of education (finance mom here), but thinking that I might want to work at a private school in an operations/finance role. Is there such a thing? Do you need to be a teacher first? Hard to find? Any leads? NYC by the way. TIA!!
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]yes, go to www.nais.org, click on career center and then search for CFO/business office jobs. There will be a lot of them, you can see the requirements. The ones in NYC are very difficult to get, they don't come up a lot and there are so many finance people here. but might be worth a try
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[-]due with #2 on friday and i feel like someone punched me in my vagina. so sore! a sign of labor?
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[-]When did you dc learn to ride a bike without training wheels? I noticed that a few almost 4 yr olds are already doing it, yet see many 5-6 yo with training wheels.
10 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Mine hasn't. She is 6. We are just not into bike riding--although I guess we will teach her this summer.
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older dc learned at 4 - he had a like-a-bike and taught himself. My younger dc is almost 5 and afraid to pedal on a bike with training wheels. My nephew was 8 when he learned - but I think it mostly depends on 1. how coordinated your dc is and 2. how much access they get to biking
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[-]Can someone please help me? 3 yo dd simply cannot stop hurting 16 mo ds. All day, if I turn my back for even 10 seconds, it's her pushing him down on his back, smacking him in the face, throwing things at him/his face, pinching his cheeks hard, lying on top of him, squeezing her legs around his neck ... I kid you not. We do not do this rough stuff ourselves, so I am really at a loss. Very serious and consistent time outs are not working. Is this normal? What would you do?
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op: I never know if the replies on this board are serious, but assuming you are, I should add that she does not do this stuff with other kids, just her brother.
[ Reply | Options ]I'm serious, she seems to have very agressive/violent feelings for her brother and that isn't safe. i'm not saying she's mentally ill or anything like that but someone needs to get to the root of it and make her see it can and will seriously hurt him eventually.
[ Reply | Options ]op: I don't know how anyone would get to the root of anything with a 3 yo. She's not exactly a sophisticate when it comes to expressing herself. Though I certainly wish I could.
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rudolf dreikurs suggests that you give your older child opportunities to help you with the baby. lots of help. also, another suggestion is to baby the older child if that is what she wants, including spoon feeding her, putting her down to a nap when the infant goes to sleep, holding and rocking her. she will begin to hate it and wnat her indepenedecne again.
[ Reply | Options ]We had a bit of this for awhile. It seemed to help to let them be alone together, actually (I would usually eavesdrop or pretend I was busy but really watch). Once my older one got to like the little one, the acting out stopped a bit. I only see aggressive behavior like this now when #1 is really wanting my attention
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[-]NYC Pre-K lottery notices. According to the DOE website, it's this week. Anyone hear yet?
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[-]DS needs some complicated dental work done, but because of a couple of negative experiences he's scared to death of dentists. Looking to do it either in NY or more ideally in or around Brunswick, Maine. Any pediatric dentists you can recommend?
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[-]What is your favorite item of child's clothing (looking for a good gift idea). Thanks!
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