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  • [-]I am so stressed out - I have a teen recently diagnosed with ADD - failing her second year of h.s. - so I'm pursuing a 504 for her to get extra help -- she's seeing a therapist and a psych - who won't prescribe a medication covered by my crappy insurance so the meds are costing me $130 a month! AND I have a 1st grader who I'm persuing an appt w/a dev. ped. with in June - but the social worker has suggested a Sensory Evaluation at Rusk; I am constantly trying to get referrals and information from our regular ped and follow up with these speciallists... My head is so full trying to follow up with everyone because NOONE calls or writes back - EVER; It's amazing; Thank god I work part time from home or else I could NEVER do this stuff.

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    05.21.08, 06:18 AM [ Flag ]
    • why are you taking your 1st grader to dev ped?

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      05.21.08, 06:19 AM [ Flag ]
      • he's had some behavior issues at home and on occasion, at school; he's had some strange ways that I just wanted checked out; he's been getting OT, PT, speech for several years

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        05.21.08, 06:21 AM [ Flag ]
        • strange ways???

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          05.21.08, 06:22 AM [ Flag ]
          • i just mean some odd behaviors that i want to make sure don't mean anything other than he's an odd kid

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            05.21.08, 06:25 AM [ Flag ]
            • NP: no need to justify. I suspect that woman is not a mother of a SN kid. We all know what you mean by "strange ways".

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              05.21.08, 09:53 AM [ Flag ]
              • np:I am and I am wonder if this woman is grasping at things. Occasional sounds normal to me.

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                05.21.08, 04:03 PM [ Flag ]
    • I'm sorry. That would be hard to deal with all at once. Have you shopped around for the cost of meds? Sam's Club has the lowest usually and you don't have to be a member to get prescriptions there. GL

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      05.21.08, 06:20 AM [ Flag ]
      • i have shopped around and am getting 20% with a AAA membership

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        05.21.08, 06:23 AM [ Flag ]
        • well that's something at least. Keep checking. Seems like every couple of weeks I hear about a new store with $4 scripts etc. GL to you. Sounds like you are doing a great job

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          05.21.08, 06:24 AM [ Flag ]
          • those are for generics; unfortunately - the generics for the ADD meds is a straight amphetamine - which are not long acting or extended release -- so a teenager would have to walk around with 3 of them in her pocket all day; These are controlled substances -- highly marketable - so the psych won't prescribe them for a kid this age;

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            05.21.08, 06:26 AM [ Flag ]
            • I see. I know there are also drug companies that will help you with cost but they depend on income level. You might check that out too.

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              05.21.08, 06:27 AM [ Flag ]
              • have done.... max income for a family of four is $42K ; I pay half that in rent!

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                05.21.08, 06:28 AM [ Flag ]
                • that bites! they really need to take into account cost of living

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                  05.21.08, 06:33 AM [ Flag ]
            • No, the psych won't prescribe them when the MOM has a factitious disorder, which you do. Otherwise, they are very commonly prescribed.

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              05.21.08, 06:28 AM [ Flagged ]
              • what is wrong with you? she said her kid was diagnosed

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                05.21.08, 06:28 AM [ Flag ]
              • WHAT?

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                05.21.08, 06:30 AM [ Flag ]
                • What part of my sentence didn't you understand? This mom is trying to create nonexistent "abnormalities" in her kids because she gets her jollies from the attention of doctors and psychologists.

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                  05.21.08, 06:31 AM [ Flag ]
                  • how the hell can you say this when you dont even know her?

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                    05.21.08, 06:32 AM [ Flag ]
                    • It's clear from the history that she has provided here--a history that doesn't make sense construed any other way.

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                      05.21.08, 06:33 AM [ Flag ]
                      • Hmm, I think we know who you are. NP

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                        05.21.08, 03:38 PM [ Flag ]
              • please, get a life. and OP--NEVER post to toddler. There's always some ignorant harpie.

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                05.21.08, 07:12 AM [ Flag ]
                • ^and you should challenge the insurance company's failure to cover the meds--often if you have the MD write a thing stating that no other meds work, they cover them.

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                  05.21.08, 07:14 AM [ Flag ]
              • mean person!

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                05.21.08, 07:21 AM [ Flag ]
    • apple doesn't far fall, does it.

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      05.21.08, 06:21 AM [ Flag ]
    • i hear you.. half my day is spent on hold

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      05.21.08, 06:22 AM [ Flag ]
    • oooh psychological munchausen's sounds like

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      05.21.08, 06:26 AM [ Flagged ]
      • WTF?

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        05.21.08, 06:26 AM [ Flag ]
      • I was just about to say that myself.

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        05.21.08, 06:27 AM [ Flag ]
        • are you kidding me

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          05.21.08, 06:27 AM [ Flag ]
          • No--it's clear that the mom is a medical-attention-seeker.

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            05.21.08, 06:28 AM [ Flag ]
            • I swear I don't even understand what kind of joy you would get for knocking me down this way ... My kids have never even been on antibiotics and the kid on ADD meds is almost 16 yrs old; The other one isn't on any meds and is seeing a dev. ped. for the first time ... we have no history of seeking medical attention; Sadly I'm under enough stress that this string is really making me upset - when normally I'd just walk away .

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              05.21.08, 06:34 AM [ Flag ]
              • Don't let her upset you. She may not be a mom, sometimes we get 12, 13 year old girls playing around. If she is a mom, she has had a small life and believes things she reads or hears easily and applies them quickly to other people's real life situations. The rest of us believe you and know how hard it is for you. GL

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                05.21.08, 06:45 AM [ Flag ]
              • NP: please ignore these women. Ever since UB switched to this new format I notice lots of nasty posts on this bord.

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                05.21.08, 09:54 AM [ Flag ]
                • But also bc OP posted to toddler and NYC and teens in addition to special needs.

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                  05.21.08, 01:15 PM [ Flag ]
                  • I still don't think that gives people the right to talk to others like they are dirt.

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                    05.21.08, 03:09 PM [ Flag ]
      • wow

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        05.21.08, 06:27 AM [ Flag ]
    • Think of it this way most kids with ADD end up in a field that is artistic, like cooking, art, fashion etc..... I am ADD and I am a chef

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      05.21.08, 06:32 AM [ Flag ]
      • yes - my daughter is artistic and a photographer -- I just want to see her get through high school with her self confidence ... as she is failing now and in a very high pressure - tough acacdemic school; Now I realize it was probably the wrong HS for her - but she chose it and this city makes it very difficult to transfer out.

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        05.21.08, 06:36 AM [ Flag ]
    • OP, cross posting SN with other boards will always attract flamers - it's very unpleasant. I'd advise against it for your own sanity. FYI, David Salsberg at NYU is the best if you want to have a neuropsych eval for your 1st grader. He may not need it, but ask the social worker and whoever you speak with at Rusk what they think

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      05.21.08, 09:05 AM [ Flag ]
      • my son has sensory issues - i have him do OT at making milestones ( which you can pay and submit to insurance and they also take dept. of ed. evals.

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        05.21.08, 09:07 AM [ Flag ]
        • oh, also, you can try aarp - i did a board of ed. evaluation thru them. you have to request it thru the board of ed first. the ot really helps w/ the behavioral issues

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          05.21.08, 09:08 AM [ Flag ]
        • Are you OP?

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          05.21.08, 09:11 AM [ Flag ]
    • Are you a regular poster on the SN board? We have not been posting SN issues to other boards because they tend to attract pretty hurtful responses from non-SN parents who just don't get it...PLEASE, if you have an issue in the future, please only post to SN. Thanks.

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      05.21.08, 09:46 AM [ Flag ]
      • np:I agree. I am an only sn poster/ reader. We've btdt and get you.

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        05.21.08, 03:06 PM [ Flag ]
  • [-]for those of you who might be interested: posted about a dd's friend's friend who might be pregnant and didn't know how involved to get. Principal and guidance counselor are taking her to the doctor (or planned parenthood clinic, not sure) today. My guess is that she got a positive at-home test and asked for help.

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    05.21.08, 07:35 AM [ Flag ]
    • Whoa! I am all for being there for your students but I think it crosses a line when school staff are taking kids to a doc and parents are not involved.

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      05.21.08, 07:36 AM [ Flag ]
      • ITA! These people are asking to be sued

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        05.21.08, 07:37 AM [ Flag ]
        • for what? it's not like they are dragging her there. it would appear she had no one else to turn to

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          05.21.08, 07:39 AM [ Flag ]
          • if she's a minor they have no right to step into her parents' shoes

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            05.21.08, 07:39 AM [ Flag ]
            • np: ITA. I have no idea why would a school principal ever want to get involved in something like this.

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              05.21.08, 07:41 AM [ Flag ]
            • actually, in some situations they do. if she is beign abused or fi she wants an abortion, b/c NY does not haev a parental notification law.

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              05.21.08, 07:42 AM [ Flag ]
              • That does not mean it is right for the principal to take her.

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                05.21.08, 07:42 AM [ Flag ]
              • of course - but no one said she was abused. Is this teenager in NY?

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                05.21.08, 07:43 AM [ Flag ]
                • yes

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                  05.21.08, 07:43 AM [ Flag ]
                  • well, the parental notification law doesn't govern the relationship between the teen and her parents - I really think the school is making a mistake to take her there. it's one thing to counsel her and another to facilitate this

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                    05.21.08, 07:45 AM [ Flag ]
            • if she asked them for help, what would you suggest they do? I'm am pretty certain they covered the why-aren't-you-involving-your-parents question

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              05.21.08, 07:42 AM [ Flag ]
              • legally, that's not enough to get them off the hook. depends on what state she's in and all that, but it could be the principal/school could get into hot water real fast

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                05.21.08, 07:43 AM [ Flag ]
                • What if she answered the "why didn't you talk to your parents" with "They would throw me out of the house" (which is how I would have responded and it would have been true - middle class, religious family, never abusive, but not very understanding either)? What do you suggest? They call the parents to confirm that? or get her the help that she needs?

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                  05.21.08, 07:47 AM [ Flag ]
                  • I got an abortion at 16 without my parents knowing. I did not need my principal to take me there.

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                    05.21.08, 07:51 AM [ Flag ]
                    • so; that was you and she's 14 not 16

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                      05.21.08, 07:55 AM [ Flag ]
                • what could they get sued for? not notifying the parents? i dont think anythgn requires them to do so, asuming that they didn't.

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                  05.21.08, 07:47 AM [ Flag ]
                • I'm sure they are not doing anything illegal.

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                  05.21.08, 07:53 AM [ Flag ]
              • exactly. its a tough situation for everyone

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                05.21.08, 07:44 AM [ Flag ]
      • I don't know that she didn't tell her parents.

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        05.21.08, 07:38 AM [ Flag ]
        • And they would just let school principal handle it???

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          05.21.08, 07:41 AM [ Flag ]
          • I don't know if she told her parents or not. Whatever she did, she must have asked the guidance counselor for help

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            05.21.08, 07:43 AM [ Flag ]
            • and its pretty safe to assume that the counselor andprincipal woudl at least talk to ehr about involving her parents. for allwe know, she told thembut is more comfortable with the school people, at least on this issue. its better she have adults helping her than not.

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              05.21.08, 07:56 AM [ Flag ]
      • ITA

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        05.21.08, 07:46 AM [ Flag ]
      • Esp Planned Parenthood - their agenda is clear

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        05.21.08, 07:47 AM [ Flag ]
        • the girl wants an abortion. planned parenthood is not going to force her to get one, and she won't need to be talked into it...although they don't do that either

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          05.21.08, 07:57 AM [ Flag ]
    • Thanks for the update, I have been thinking about her. I posted on one of your earlier threads about my difficult experience going through the same thing at that age. The adults at the school are probably encouraging her to talk to her parents if that is at all possible. This is why there is so much controversy over parental consent. At least this girl is being cared for by responsible adults and seeing a dr. When children feel they can't turn to anyone for help that is how you end up with dead newborns in trashcans, girls going to clinics and getting sub-par care etc.

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      05.21.08, 07:45 AM [ Flag ]
      • exactly right.

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        05.21.08, 07:48 AM [ Flag ]
      • I am so happy they are doing this for her, that she'll feel cared for, and probably end up on birth control. I am also glad that my dd's school's principal and guidance counselor are so caring and proactive. I'm sure they are following bureaucratic procedure to a tee, because that's the way they are. I imagine she went to GC, and GC involved principal primarily to have a witness that they dotted all their I's and crossed all their T's

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        05.21.08, 08:00 AM [ Flag ]