[-]8mo is running a fever, but 2.5 yo is driving me nuts being cooped up inside on such a nice day. DH is out of town. Tell me again why it's bad to take baby out? I shouldn't right?
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[-]Anyone know of a website or websites that can recommend good toys for kids 18 mo and older? My dd doesn't play with any of her toys anymore and the normal sites I go to aren't helpful. TIA
1 reply [ Reply | Watch | Options ]www.loftykids.com---very good.
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[-]I just found out I am expecting. The thing is that one of my close friends has been trying and has miscarried five times. I miscarried once and got lucky this time. It's awkward though. I don't want to make her feel bad. I don't want to lose her friendship, because this hurts her too much.
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Try to disguise your pregnancy (hats and bowties to draw attention away from your mid section) until it becomes impossible. At that point, in good conscience the only thing you can do is leave town. After you've given the baby up for adoption resume all normal activities.
[ Reply | Options ]You shouldn't have to feel bad or hide it! I can't believe noone is saying that. Your friend might surprise you and be really excited for you. same thing happened to me. I didn't give my friend all of the pregnancy details but otherwise everything is the same.
[ Reply | Options ]oh and in a few years she'll have a child who outshines yours and when your dh is laid off she'll feel awkward around you and won't know what to say. Get over yourself, life will take care of this for you.
[ Reply | Options ]Oh wow, I don't think it's the same. OP, I think you should tell her but let her know that you are rooting for her to get pregnant, too. Then just don't talk about it unless she brings it up. I hope you don't lose the friendship, but she might find it painful to be around you for a while.
[ Reply | Options ]I disagree. This is just one of many situations in life when it is uncomfortable to be around someone who has something you want. Some day it could be a better marriage, or college admissions, or that old devil, money. Everyone gets their turn OP. Don't get too happy with yourself.
[ Reply | Options ]as someone who dealt with a friend's pregnancy and birth while i was dealing with infertility - i can tell you firsthand that you should tell your friend. maybe over the phone so that she can handle it privately. miscarriages are especially hard as you know. i applaud you for thinking of your friend!! i agree with poster above - only talk about it when she brings it up and understand that this may be painful for her. she will be very happy for you, i promise! but that happiness may be overshadowed by her pain, so dont be disappointed if she needs her space for awhile. you are a great friend and if she is as good of a friend to you, then she will be happy for you and things will all work out fine!! =)
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I was in a slightly similar situation, though on the other end. My best friend didn't tell me for the longest time, because she knew how desperately I wanted kids. I was actually upset that she felt she couldn't confide in me. Tell her, openly and honestly, and then try not to share too many details unless she asks. But don't hide it from her, or keep secrets. I've found that would hurt a close friendship even more.
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[-]My 3.4 yo dd told me she doesn't want to wear pullups at night anymore. It has been about a week and a half and she pretty much alternates a dry night or two with a night of totally soaking herself. Need some advice; do I continue with no pullups or put them back on? She is adamant that she doesn't want to wear them so I want to encourage her but the 2am changing of clothes and bedding is wearing me down...
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np- I dont think kids can "earn " their way out of a night time diper. If they are sleeping they are sleeping
[ Reply | Options ]this is more of a way for the dd to see how well she is doing. She is obviously not ready to quit the diapers and getting up in the middle of the night to change the bed is not a good idea. Stars will help her understand how many nights she has to be dry. BTDT with DD she trained at 2yo, but was not night trained until almost 4. This was how we showed her when she could give up diapers
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[-]How can anyone, republican or not, even be thinking of voting for McCain/Palin? That's a train-wreck ticket if ever there was one, imo. He's crazy as a loon - totally erratic and attack-dogish and she's not the sharpest tool in the shed but I'll be the first to admit she memorizes & delivers spoon-fed lines like an acadamy award winning actress.
28 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]never underestimate - and some people believe McCain will lead the country better.
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I honestly don't think you want to udnerstand their point of view. But, giving the benefit of the doubt - paying attention to what? The campaign ads on tv? The debates? They are really a toss up.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: paying attention to McCain's voting record, for one?? And you might be the only person who thinks the debates were a "toss up" - So, you're obviously a republican who's h*ll bent on voting republican, huh?
[ Reply | Options ]I'm actually not. I'm voting for O (Hillary supporter prior). I think, that one of the reasons you don't understand other peoples opinions is that you assume too much and are a tad closed minded. Not that there is anything wrong with that - but it's kind of odd when people post saying they just can't understand and it is painfully obvious, they haven't tried.
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Are you serious? So what happens if McCain is elected and then dies of cancer a year later? The thought of President Palin should scare the $HIT out of every single person living on Planet Earth, imo.
[ Reply | Options ]np, It's a shame that people are incapable of understanding someone elses point of view. While I don't agree, I don't find it impossible to understand.
[ Reply | Options ]So what's Palin's "point of view" anyway? That she doesn't have to answer the debate questions? That she doesn't even know the meaning of "Achilles' heel"? That she can't put a sentence together unless it's been spoon-fed to her? That she believes the office of VP should be extended so that the rules no longer apply to her? Have YOU been paying attention?
[ Reply | Options ]Sigh. Yes, I pay attention to politics. Palin doesn't hide her "point of view" - pro life, pro gun, pro war etc. It was obvious that she wasn't going to answer the questions posed by moderator - she stated clearly " I may not answer the question the way the moderator wants or the way Joe Biden wants, but I'm going to talk straight to the American people (may not be an exact quote but close). My take on Achilles Heel was that she knew what it meant but was not about to say a weakness, she is capable of putting together a sentence that is just silly, she believe the office of VP should be extended - she said that plain and simple - My question to you, is can you not see the difference between not agreeing and not understanding? BTW, How...
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Agree was a bad choice but Obama is going to screw up the foreign policy completely. Russia is promising another cold war nad Bin Laden is quetly preparing another terrorist nation. We cannot be diplomatically "solving" these problems, we don't have time for this, we are breeding two huge enemies of true democracy in our backyard.
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so you would prefer to elect someone who has accomplished nothing, has no experience leading anything much less a country, has extremely poor choices in the people who he associates himself with, and has empathy for terrorists, who is being elected as a personality who was created by the media.
[ Reply | Options ]good point above, remember the reason the rest of the world likes him is because he is a socialist.
[ Reply | Options ]np F-ing scary, isn't it? That said, I think Palin was a terrible choice on McCain's part.
[ Reply | Options ]McCain needed the backing of his own party to even have a chance of winning- Palin was a great choice for those reason and given no one seems to take the experience arguement very seriously -given Obama has none and she on paper actually has more, I don't think he made a mistake. That being said she isn't anymore ready to be President than Obama but if it came to that I am more comfortable with the people she will surround herself with than Obama will and he WILL be President Day 1, she wouldn't.
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Obama is not going to win this election. No way. Keep this post on "watch" amd lets chat again in early Nov.
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Are you looking forward to all the freebies you'll get until everyone with two dimes to rub together figures "f this" and leaves the country?
[ Reply | Options ]Lol, and where exactly are these people going to go? Europe? China? Look at NYC, it has one of the highest tax rates in the country yet seems to have no problem attracting high net worth people. Bot I hope you are right and all the CEOs who were giving themselves huge salaries and golden parachutes while they were robbing their companies blind leave to go ruin another country's economy.
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[-]i don't get it. with all of the talk of doom and gloom in the air on the news and on UB, i still see apartments for rent that are over 6K and only 1000 sq feet and over 1.3M and 1000 sq feet? how can this be?
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because markets don't change overnight. if you're in NYC/Manhattan, this market is being supported by foreign money, too, but that will very likely disipate over the next X months, and then you'll start seeing prices soften. again though, there's limited supply on manhattan, so in some ways it's less at risk than other areas -- until there's a confluence of serious issues all at once (market tanks, worldwide markets tank, credit market freezes... etc. etc. etc.)
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[-]Inspired by the post below: Can anyone recommend an apple- or pumpkin-picking orchard in/near Westchester? Thanks!
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[-]is this mean? 5 YO DD created a lot of noise in the middle of hte night. supposedly she had a nightmare but she was screaming excessively on three different occasions, woke up DB and i had to nurse DB back to sleep with DD in the room still being a bit annoying, kept standing up in bed and causing DB to look over, anyway, it took many hours to get DB back to sleep, i've been awake since 1:20 am and we're supposed to drive to a b-day party that is an hour away. DD really wants to go even though it's not really a friend of hers. it's a younger child that is a good friend of our family. is it mean if i say we can't go? we'll have to leave here at 8:30 am and i've had no sleep.
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]If you think you'll be miserable doing the drive back and forth and won't have fun at the party, don't go. Your kids' needs/desires don't entirely trump yours, especially if you might actually be able to turn this into lesson for your older kid on the notion that her actions have consequences.
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[-]Need mattress/boxspring help! Looking to get a new king sized bed. Since there are so many different kinds out there (and I do know it's pretty subjective), if anyone has a mattress that they love, I'd love to know about it. It might help narrow down my search. TIA!
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]we finally spent money on a mattress and bought the memory foam one from sleepy's. (posturepedic? temperpedic?) without doubt, the BEST money i ever spent. i go to bed and sleep hard. we took a gamble since we'd never actually slept on anything but springs (the industry now calls them coils, but they're springs), but it turned out really great. i think the prices have dropped in the past three years on them, too.
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[-]what is proper park etiquette wrt sharing toys? i bring a lot of toys to park for 15 mo dd. i understand other kids may be attracted to her toys, want to play with them, etc. but when did it become MY problem when I ask a child to please keep our toys in our area i/o taking it to another area of the park? if you are going to the park, why dont you bring toys for your kid? why do you expect to play with the toys of others? btw - sharing doesn't come easily to me, and i am trying to keep a lid on my feelings wghere my dd is concerned, but i'm just surprised that some parents don't teach their children to ask to play with something that isn't theirs. UGHHHHH
25 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]if you bring toys to the park they are fair game as long as dd isn't engaged in playing with them, and that means they could wind up on the other end of the playground. if you're unhappy with that, don't bring toys.
[ Reply | Options ]you expect a toddler to ask to play with a toy? it's not going to happen. IMO, bringing toys to a playground is like bringing toys to a dog run--don't do it if you're going to be possessive. why do you need to bring toys? isn't there enough there to entertain your dd? don't you want her to interact with other kids?
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why do they have to stay "in your area of the park"? Why can't you just ask the kids to make sure to bring them back to you when they're finished? If your child isn't playing with them, what's the problem? And it has nothing to do with other parents bringing their own toys for their kids, btw--kids are attracted to the toys of OTHER kids. Luckily, most parents are way cooler than you are about this.
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Don't bring anything you don't want played with by other kids, that you'll be pissed at other parents for not tracing and returning to you, that you will stress about losing. I get so annoyed by parents/caregivers that are this silly and then uptight. Please keep your extra toys home, prepare to share the ones not in your kid's hands and get ready for the wakeup call-your child will be using other kids' toys w/out asking. If we all had your attitude, nobody would bother taking their kids to the park. We belong to a community of parents and are generally accepted as the adults; please try to remember that.
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^^also-your dd is young, my kids are older but I have *always* told them that if they ask to bring something to the playground they're expected to share it. Not give it up if they are having fun with it, but share it, and expect that other kids will want to play with it when they're not using it
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Our house rule has always been -- if you bring toys to the park expect to share them. A time will come when you forgot a pail or your child "must" play with the red Dora shovel someone else brought. Any day now your dd will be magnetically drawn to every babydoll stroller she sees in the park & will pitch a fit if she can't walk with it. Nothing wrong with gently telling a child to keep toys in the sandbox or telling them they can take a turn and return toy -- but YES you and your child should expect to share everything you bring to a public park filled with children who always prefer another child's toys (yours included).
[ Reply | Options ]We bring lots of toys to the park - ds only wants to play with other kids toys! He does share his toys so I figure it works out in the end - and I don't let him take anything another child is actually using. Just put your child's name or initials on everything and assume that you will lose a few things during the year.
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[-]Why did I never know about Uniqlo? Bought skinny cords that are truly flattering -- and were $49!! There were cute sweater dresses and other things, too.
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[-]experiencing some pinkish discharge at 9 weeks with twins. anyone have experience? starting to freak out.
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[-]I am so sorry that I didn't share this with all of you earlier, but it's been crazy. Last week, i was walking near my office bldg on 51st and 6th. Kathie Lee Gifford, Chloe Kardashian and some tall, pretty black newswoman who I recognized but could not identify were standing on the corner. A camera was shooting them and they were screaming that they had "celebrity cupcakes" that they were handing out. I don't know if this was some fundraiser or something. But everyone pretty much blew by Kathie Lee and the ugly kardashian with no use for their shitty cupcakes. Though, I did make brief eye contact with Kathie lee. it was scary. carry on.
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