[-]Need a good light grey paint color by Benjamin Moore. Any suggestions?
11 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I tested a TON of Ben. Moore greys and ended up switching to a Behr color (dophin fin) instead. Ben Moore tended to have very light greys (almost white looking) or very strong greys.
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I used Benjamin Moore #2109-50; Elephant Gray in my bath (semi gloss) and in my hall (flat) and am thrilled with the result. The baseboards and moldings were in BM #912; Linen White. I am always receiving compliments on the color scheme. I really love the color and love, love, love looking at my bath decor as I am in the shower.
[ Reply | Options ]Queen of the grey/beige tones. Completely agree with Benjamin Moore Edgecomb Grey HC 173. But I have to say, went a bit darker in the dining room and absolutely luv Benjamin Moore Revere Pewter HC 172. I cannot tell you how many sample squares I had painted before I fell for these.
[ Reply | Options ]I LOVE BM Silver Fox. http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/ny/colortherapy/colortherapy-silver-fox-210850-012623
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[-]Copycat of another post: Anyone other then op of the previous post have reactions to the MMR vaccine? OR no reaction at all? How old was dc when they got it and what were the reactions, and had dc ever had any reactions to other vaccine prior? Does anyone die from this? (for the record, I am PRO vaccine and am just worrying) My dd is getting hers next week.
9 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]op: mommies, I know you are TIRED of hearing about vaccines, but please offer some advice. I am literally sitting here in tears. I am SO stressed over the idea of my baby either a) having a reaction to the vaccine or b) getting one of the illnesses in the future. I can't pray enough that we make the right decision and our dd is fine, but man am I worked up. I would never forgive myself if I made the wrong decision and hurt my db.
[ Reply | Options ]listen. stop freaking out. the chances of your daughter having a severe reaction are very very slim. if your daughter has no allergy history and has responded well to past vaccines, she will be fine.
[ Reply | Options ]hit enter too soon. you have no idea how this will turn out in the end. what you can do is make an educated decision. the facts show that for a majority of the population vaccines are 100 percent safe. there are people who do have bad reactions to them just like people have bad reactions to certain foods. you have to decide if the fear of not knowing is greater than your knowledge on the importance of vaccinating. stop worrying. everything will be ok :)
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It sounds like you understand intellectually that it's a good decision but you're just having an emotional reaction. That happens to me sometimes too. Do you still have any older relatives, like grandmothers or whatever? Or do you know any elderly people? I suggest you ask them about childhood diseases and to tell you a little about their brothers and sisters and cousins who died. Usually they're happy to reminisce (there's no one else still alive who knew these kids so no one talks about them anymore) plus it will remind you why you're doing what you're doing.
[ Reply | Options ]Honestly? You should get off UB. I am saying this gently because I find myself in the same situation, often. Things that I know are obviously fine to do get me all antsy when I come here. The vast majority of people have NO reaction. NONE. Not even a fever. My kid has never had a reaction to a vaccine, other than a fever back when she was maybe four months old? Nothing Tylenol couldn't control.
[ Reply | Options ]OP, I am a pediatrician and a mom of3. honestly, it sounds like you know it is a good decision, but things you have heard are freaking you out. GET OFF THE INTERNET :). I dont meant that literally but...I mean, stop believing what you hear from anonymous posters on a website. people post things to be inflammatory or to start flame wars. dont read into it too much. lots of kids (1 of my own 3 included!) feel achy or develop flu-like symptoms after the MMR vaccine. One of my sons develops a slight fever. a rash is less common but can occur as well...but the overwhelming majority of kids get right back to the business of playing and never feel achy or anything at all. please dont worry so much!!!
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[-]Vaccinators: The possible side effects of the MMR vaccine include (but are not limited to) fever, rash, seizures, organ swelling deafness, coma, permanent brain damage, and Death. The possible effects of ACTUALLY getting Measles or Mumps are fever, rash, seizures, organ swelling, deafness, permanent brain damage, and death. I mean, really... You can compare apples and oranges, but I don't think vaccinating makes you any safer.
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I just hate the sanctimommies who act like they are protecting their children and humanity from these horrible diseases, when in reality, you are just trading one evil for another. And allowing the gov't to weaken your children and compromise their health. Have to wonder who's pocket that is lining.
[ Reply | Options ]As long as everyone ELSE is vaccinating, or the vast majority, then not vaccinating your dc doesn't make much of a difference. However, if people like you are successful in convincing everyone else not to vaccinate, believe me, you wouldn't be so blase about it.
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how likely are these side effects? does anyone know anyone who's child had these effects?
[ Reply | Options ]This means nothing to me without actual numbers. What are the chances of these side effects of the vaccine, versus the chances of getting measles or mumps, versus the chance of a catastrophic outcome such as fever, rash, etc, from having measles or mumps? Also, this doesn't take into account the fact that if you opt for the latter risk (getting the disease) you then risk passing it on to others, thus exponentially spreading the "evil" around.
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Are you the same twat that KEEPS posting this sh!t about vaccines? Get over it. Just stop. Move on with your life. Seriously.
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This is a rich country's problem. Vaccines work so well that there is a backlash.
[ Reply | Options ]Of all the vaccinated people I know, NONE of these symptoms has ever happened to any of them. Of all the people I have ever met this has never been an issue. In fact we were all vaccinated as kids (when they were more dangerous) and we are all fine. If you don't want to vaccinate then blame yourself instead of the life saving vaccines that were invented to keep kids safe. Not vaccinating and making a decision aganist it could result in deadly consequences later on down the road when the diseases come back due to large amount of unvaccinated people (which doctors said is already starting to happen).
[ Reply | Options ]OKAY!!! SANE mommies, please help, lol. I an taking dd in for her mmr vaccine on monday. she is 1 year. I have been anxiously awaiting getting my db the MMR b/c of the recent outbreak here in NYC. I Want to be able to take her to playgrounds and such with friends (HER friends) and not worry about measles, mumps, or rub. PLEASE give me some encouraging words... how many of you have kids with NO reactions to the vaccine?
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MILLIONS of kids get the MMR and have no reaction - in fact, to have no reaction is the norm.
[ Reply | Options ]Sometimes my ds would have "reactions" like the fever you are to expect. Sometimes I wonder if the fever was from the vaccine or a virus he picked up in the office. If I got it too, which happened once, I knew it wasn't the vaccine. My ds had all of his shots and never had a severe reaction. Same with me, same with my sister. And MOST people I know. Some kids are allergic to eggs, and have reactions because of that.
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I selected a well educated doctor and we have rational discussions. She points me in the direction of some research when I am unsure, but ultimately, I trust her decisions. She is also a mom. My child is fully vaccinated, as am I, and my sister (who had more vaccs than I did...she got chicken pox vacc, I was too old, I just got chicken pox. lol) I am a sick person, my sister is quite healthy. Who knows all the reasons. Chicken pox were pretty awful for me, and I missed a week of school. Thankg god I didn't go to NYC private or I'd have had to repeat the grade! lol
[ Reply | Options ]A friend said "Ask your doctor if she vaccinates her kids. If she would vaccinate her own kids (knowing the side effects and risks of the vaccines) then it should ease your mind." My pedi said "Absolutely she had her kids vaccinated."
[ Reply | Options ]I am assuming that you never take your DC anywhere in a car, since that it many many many times more dangerous than vaccinating them. If you knew or cared about scientific fact, you would see that the tiny risk of a side effect is outweighed by the huge risk of a vulnerable child.
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[-]Can someone please explain to my DH that our toddler's tantrums are normal? He seems convinced that there's something "wrong" with her because she gets frustrated easily! Or that we're doing something bad that's causing them. I think this is just what they do, right?
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[-]My dd (almost 3) had really bad eczema on her face as an infant, It went away when she was about a year. The last few days it has come back with a vengeance and her skin is dry, cracking, and bleeding (her wrists especially). She is constantly scratching and causing scratches because she does it so hard. Now it is everywhere and whenever I take her outside it gets WORSE. Can the pedi prescribe something that will work quickly, it has gone from mild to severe in about 3 days. Is there any over the counter lotion I can use until I get an appointment? I bought the Palmers coco butter with vitamin E but I see little improvement.
13 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I'm in the same position, DD has it on her face around her mouth. I've tried EVERYTHING and nothing seems to work. People say the meanest things on the street. One man asked me today if those bruises were fresh!
[ Reply | Options ]My DS has eczema as well. There was a time when his eczema flared up so bad that his allergist gave him steriod cream prescription called Mometasone. We applied thinly for 2-3 days and all the symptoms went away. His eczema is under control now since then which was more than 1.5 yrs ago. He still scratches occasionally, including his wrist and feet but he is getting better as he gets older. We only used the steriod once or twice because it is not meant to be used often. But it did work on DS after just one treatment. We use Aquaphor day and night to keep him moisturized, even in the summer though not as much. We find Aquaphor to be the best OTC moisturizing cream.
[ Reply | Options ]We're using hydrocorticone for this, OTC strength. It's stopping the itching long enough for her skin to heal.
[ Reply | Options ]When we saw her derm, they told us to bathe dd daily in a warm (not hot) bath for 20 mins, then immediately apply lotion. they suggested Vanicream (but we use aveeno unscented). They also said hydrocortizone for any irritated spots (you can get it over the counter). I would stay away Palmers btw, stick with simple lotions made for babies (vanicream, aveeno, aquafor, etc.). COuld she be allergic to something? Maybe the soap you wash her clothing in?
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[-]How old was DB when you moved them into a toddler bed? Is 24mo too early?
10 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]28 months and still in crib. We move June 1st to summer house, and could attempt a bed there. I am thinking about waiting until after summer if I can, and making the transition by age 3. Also, as another poster said, we will probably go straight to a twin bed, but our cribs do convert to toddler beds. Ds's rooms all have a crib and a twin bed in them already.
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[-]Don't want to be a sanctimommy, but can't take it anymore: have a good friend who basically spends no time at all with her kids (I would be hard-pressed to think of the last time she was with them alone without her nanny and/or her husband) and doesn't discipline them at all. I cannot stand doing family things with them anymore and it's getting to the point where I don't even feel comfortable with my friend anymore because we are so, so different when it comes to parenting. Any thoughts?
14 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]If you want to have her as a friend then I would just turn as much of a blind eye as you can. And if that is too painful, then it might be time to cool this friendship.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: I am having the internal debate. Am I a better friend if I just turn a blind eye and let it go or am I a better friend if I have some kind of come-to-Jesus talk with her?
[ Reply | Options ]Oh my god, why would you even think about having a "talk" with her? Maybe she thinks that you are constantly hovering over your kids and a PITA in your own way? I know so many people who parent so differently than I do but it doesn't make their way wrong. It just means that we don't do a lot of kid stuff together. Seems to work well for me.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: A lot of reasons, but honestly, b/c I do feel bad for her kids and I think there still may be time for her to actually be a parent! BTW, we all have our issues and I'm sure I can be a PITA in my own way, too, but my friend is kind of over-the-top in how little time she spends with her kids and how she just kind of laughes or glosses over or ignores when they are being completely out of control
[ Reply | Options ]OP: Oh, and because other mutual friends have kind of bailed on her. They just have no interest in hanging out with her kids and make excuses to get out of doing stuff. I'm not saying that's bad at all, I'm just wondering if I should do that, too, or address the elephant in the room.
[ Reply | Options ]I have to think that if it's that serious of a problem, she'll have noticed. And if she wants to find out what's up, she'll ask. If she hasn't, then she probably doesn't care to know what you all think. Can I ask why you seem to think it's such a big deal that she doesn't do things with her kids "alone"? Is that really a huge issue?
[ Reply | Options ]OP: I think it's an issue when any parent basically doesn't see their children during the week and then complains when they spend time with them for a half an hour by themselves over the weekend. I think a parent who seems unable to be with her children without a nanny or the other parent there is an issue.
[ Reply | Options ]I guess you'd have a problem with me, then? I'm a working mother and I'm six months pregnant. I have a really hard time being alone with my toddler lately because she's all.over.the.place and it's hard to chase her and lift her to the change table for diaper changes and wrangle with her stroller. You just don't know her situation. Perhaps a little less judgment? If you're so quick to condemn her maybe this friendship has run its course.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: I don't have a problem with you. My friend is not pregnant. I have also been preggo and not wanted to spend time with my toddler. I have also not been pregnant and not wanted to spend time with my children--who hasn't? It's just that this has sort of always been the case with my friend. She just seems to have had children and then, since she's had them, pretty much opted out of parenting. I know her well and I've tried to look at and understand her situation, but it doesn't change the fact that she ignores her kids and they are becoming increasingly unpleasent. Perhaps I should agree with you that the friendship is running its course and that makes me a little sad.
[ Reply | Options ]You definitely know her better than we all do here. Honestly...she sounds kind of depressed, and I do think you are judging her a little harshly. There are a lot of men out there who aren't particularly involved with their kids' lives and while they might get a slap on the wrist from their wives here and there, I don't think they face the same kind of criticism as moms heap upon one another. Sounds like you are taking a real issue with her lifestyle so perhaps you want to just hang out with her one on one.
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[-]I am having a major falling out with my long term nanny and about to tell her that it is the end for us. . . how will this affect dd - BTW. . . dd is 6 and nanny is part time not primary caregiver
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]DD will be fine. Don't give her details of the split. Don't say bad things about the nanny. But do sit dd down and tell her that nanny will no longer be with you. If possible, she can make a farewell gift for nanny, but I don't know the circumstances of the dismissal. Do give severance to Nanny, unless there was a major employment problem.
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[-]For those of you with kids in the 2s PM program at your nursery school could you tell me what time your DB naps?
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[-]help 3yo dd is having very physical confrontations with her close friend. lots of pushing ,grabbing hitting sometimes biting (from the other girl). taught dd how to "use her words" but it all goes out the window.
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Where are they? Home, school, play group, etc. They are at that age where they might have to be watched im order to prevent injuries.
[ Reply | Options ]Sounds like she hasn't really learned to "use her words" otherwise, she'd be using them. Kids resort to physical stuff when they can't express themselves verbally. I'd get in there and try to help both girls use their words before it gets violent. I'd let them both know that you won't let them hurt each other. And they might need some time away from each other too.
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[-]Video game poll. With all the anti-video game moms out there, be honest: If you're a mother of a boy ages 12 or over, do they do video games on a regular basis? Ok to just say age of ds and yes or no. Hard to get a "pulse" on this group when only the rabid antis post.
15 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]15 and 13 year olds play on a regular basis. They both do well in school and sports, and spend plenty of time doing all of things that "brain candy" mom would deem acceptable forms of entertainment. As long as they keep up their grades, they are free to choose how to spend their free time. (within reason)
[ Reply | Options ]12, from the minute he gets home to the minute he goes to bed, and all weekend long; no exaggeration.
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[ Reply | Options ]I'm an anti-video game mom. I am not against it on principle. It's more practical. I think it's fine for a boy or girl if they can control themselves and limit the use. BUT I have never known any kid who doesn't constantly fight with the parents and try to negotiate for more playing time. It's almost like an addiction. I don't want that hassle. If my dc is like the majority of kids who are always whining and fighting with the parents, and the chances are my dc may be one of them if I let it...
[ Reply | Options ]13 yo and 7 yo DS's (11 yo old and 2.9 yo dd) No. No way. Never have. Never will.
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[-]Kids Say the Darndest Things. Tell me something funny your kid has said.
16 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]OP: After working out today, I picked my 4 yr old son up at the gym's child care center. I was in my work out clothes and drenched in sweat. He grabbed my thigh and started feeling around between my legs. When I asked him what he was doing, he looked at me and whispered "mommy, you peed a little."
[ Reply | Options ]We were discussing how much the stock market has gone down and my parents were saying that their retirement has decreased in value when my dc age 7 asked my dad "how much are you planning to lose this year?"
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Ds(4) had a friend over to play. I told the boys I was going to the bathroom and would be right back. Ds wanted to go with me and I told him to stay with his friend. As I walked away, I heard his friend say "She dosen't want you to see her bagina"
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[-]I'm told my 2yo ds is showing multiple signs of "toilet training readiness". I've no idea how to begin the process. Please give me tips on how to make the training quick and least stressful for all involved. What has worked for you?
12 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Crazily enough, potty dvds to get the discussion going and then a potty to sit on while watching the dvd!
[ Reply | Options ]If he really is ready just put him on the toilet or a potty every hour - don't give hima chance to pee in his diaper. Once you realize he is asking to go I highly recommend eliminating pull ups and diapers during the day and going to underwear. My dd went back and forth on wanting to use the toilet and not and the first day she was dry all day and asked ot go a few times I got her into underwear and she had very few accidents. GL.
[ Reply | Options ]Hijack: Our 2yr old is into the potty as well, so we're going for it, and putting him in underwear at home (daytime, only), and also taking him to the potty regularly. Two questions: (1) he only seems to want to use the small potty, not the real one. Is this a problem? Can we make the switch later? (2) how do we handle outdoors when he doesn't want to use regular toilets? DH insists on putting him in underwear for outside too. Thanks.
[ Reply | Options ]We talked constantly about potty training for 2 weeks, bought the "once upon a potty" book and read that for 2 weeks, then I bought both a potty and toilet insert (wasn't sure which one she would like better), and then I took off her diaper! The first day was awful--lots of accidents. I kept putting her on the potty (we never left the house). On day 2 she was about 50-50 and when she had an accident we went to the bathroom to clean her undies together. Day 3 was 80-20--yeah! And by day 4 she pretty much got it. She's now 2 1/2 and we still have a few accidents a week, but she doesn't wear any diapers during the day (only at night and during nap). I celebrated her pee and poop for the first week or so with an M&M and we would dance and hug a...
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[-]RANT: sorry everyone but I am so mad. Live in westchester, SAHM who consults part time for my previous FT company in the city. Two dc's, 4.5 and 21 months. Have had nanny working for us for almost two years. Part time, 3 days per week. Which I use to consult from home, and sometimes have meetings in the city and once in a while have a fun girlfriend lunch. When we hired nanny we were clear about pay, $14 per hr, drive the DC's at times to classes and school for older DC. About six months after being hired she asked for a raise because of new apartment costs, DH felt bad and gave her a raise. Hired her through agency , she gets paid vacation every year when we go on vacation and if a holiday falls on one of her scheduled days she is paid. W...
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Sounds odd. I had a situation similar to this. Turns out nanny had an overbearing DH who was ok with her making money but didn't want her outside the house if it was not alright for his day. He also wanted her to keep asking for "extras" told her she was entitled. We fired her. It was tough but too much of a hassle fo never know what he would "encourage" her to ask for next.
[ Reply | Options ]Thank you for teaching our children! I think NYC public school teachers generally do an amazing job! You are articulate, sound practical and committed - glad to have you in the system. Question - we were going to move to private for middle - what do you think of the NYC public middles?
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[-]Anyone have a Phil and Teds double stroller? Dh and I are thinking about getting one for our 20 month old and nb due in July. The only drawback to me is that the child in back has no view. Do your dbs mind riding in the back?
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[-]Please recommend your obgyn or midwife (NYC)! Need one in MANHATTAN who accepts insurance. :-) Share why you liked them, where they deliver, etc. Thanks!
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I love my OB and his partners. His name is Kurt Christopher. The entire practice takes insurance. THey deliver out of Roosevelt. He's delivered all 3 of my dc. The other 2 are Dr Shawna Hedley (She's FABULOUS) and Dr Sean O'Henry (he's a doll). I would have been happy with either delivering my kids. Their telephone # is 212-599-4400.
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