[-]Does anyone else her have a problem with a certain singer LB who sings about spaghetti?
23 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]When my dd was born, my mother ran out and bought the CD and memorized the songs. I had to sit in the back of my parents minivan as they drove around singing that spaghetti song at the top of their lungs. My dd was 12w at the time and really didn't give a hoot, it really was one of the most annoying experiences I have had in the past few years.
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UB is the ONLY place I have ever heard of this singer. I think someone on here is obsessed with her.
[ Reply | Options ]ITTTA!! I'm convinced it's either LB herself or her publicist that keeps posting these innane questions. The only problem with that they usually end up in a flamefest of how boring and banal her music is... probably NOT the type of feedback they would like. But I guess in that line of biz, any publicity is good publicity?! FWIW - my kids immediately ask us to turn the channel when Berkner comes on Nick, for which DH and I are all too eager to comply!! Cannot STAND her "music"
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Wasn't there some movie/TV show where Emma Thompson played a similarly annoying singer? Can't remember what it was but it was hilarious. I always preferred Raffi myself or heck--how about just regular music?
[ Reply | Options ]this is funny. She irritates me but someone on UB is really bothered by her because you post this every other day or so! Wonder if this thread will disappear...
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[-]Therapist mom here - had a long day, on a wave, ask me anything.
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this being an anonymous board: do you ever get interested/emotionally involved in your job? Like you think about a patient's problem on the way home?
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I think many people these days are so lonely, especially in NYC. So many people get married, have kids, have friends and despite all that are so alone. I think I am a friend for hire sometimes, someone that can listen, and doesn’t judge, gives advice, sheds light on a new perspective, a new outlook. If you can help change someone’s perspective you can have change happen in the physical world.
[ Reply | Options ]What is your take on the fact that meds can change perspective in a very tangible way?
[ Reply | Options ]I’m not a Psychiatrist, I’m a LCSW. I am aware of the fact that some people need meds to be able to literally survive. I refer patients to Psychiatrists if I feel that they need more help. In a perfect world talking, opening up, facing issues would get people to straighten up, deal and get better. But in this world it’s not the case, plus some psychotic people do need meds and these are beyond the scope of my practice.
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Do you have times where you question the value of therapy, and your chosen profession altogether? I know several MSW's who feel this way, my sister is one of them.
[ Reply | Options ]How should I deal with my alcoholic borderline personality father? Cut him out completely? Sad he won't have a relationship with dd but maybe it is for the best.
[ Reply | Options ]I personally don’t believe in a rigid definition of “family” – sometimes blood can’t overcome hard personalities, sometimes past experiences affect the way we look at parents, siblings, etc. I have many patients that complain, especially around the holiday season, that they have to go to dinners with their family, however they don’t feel close to those people – a lot of anger, hurt bottled in, yet they go to dinner, act, put on a happy face while questioning the whole “production”. Your father may not have been a good father, and he may never be but he can still be an excellent grandfather, loving and caring, drinking problem or not. However, if he is not interested, doesn’t show affection etc, the fact that he is blood ...
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Any advice on surviving 6th grade? I feel so helpless when dd reveals what's going on socially.
[ Reply | Options ]If she is being picked on or singled out, boost her up as much as you can. Even if it seems "silly" or like overkill, if you tell her she is beautiful or smart or [fill in the blank] literally every day, when she is an adult she will have better self-esteem than all of her friends. If she is one of the ones doing the ostracizing, do what you can to teach her compassion outside of her social circle. Perhaps volunteer work, but not by forcing her to be nice to kids considered outcasts - that will be too hard on her because of the other girls. Also, encourage her to be friends with boys.
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How does one go about choosing a good psychologist? What resources would you recommend?
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Trailer trash mom here- how can I get a MILF with two kids to stop calling my boyfriend to ask if she can move in/spend the night?
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Let me preface this by saying that I have definitely benefited from therapy at different times in my life. I do notice, however, that many people who choose to study/practice some sort of mental therapy are generally the people who seem most screwed up. Do you think the majority of people who choose some type of psycho therapy as a profession are trying to fix themselves?
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[-]help me out -- I had a discussion with someone (who doesn't have dcs) who said she can foresee a time when women would choose voluntary surrogacy (paying someone else to have their db) instead of carrying a db themselves. That it's another change to how technology becomes a part of our lives and how we try to control/preserve our bodies in different ways. I just don't think efficiency would ever outweigh wanting to be pregnant, if you can do it (for most people -- of course, there are exceptions). What do you think?
28 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I can foresee it, far not the road and for a handful of women, but once it starts the practice could grow. And I say this, even though the thought appalls me.
[ Reply | Options ]I do not think it would ever become routine. Yes, a very small group of women would choose this out of need or desire. But most women take pleasure in pregnancy on some level and it is a biological urge similar to sex.
[ Reply | Options ]that's what I feel, too -- there is a sense of pleasure, and almost a primal desire. But she suggested, couldn't the idea of what's pleasurable change? How do we know it's pleasurable before having gone through it?
[ Reply | Options ]I truly think it's similar to sex rather than plastic surgery - an innate desire, rather than a superficial/convenient act.
[ Reply | Options ]That's what I was telling her -- that it's hard to understand until you are on the threshold of being able to be pregnant. Why do we want it? Because of what others are telling you? Because of how we've been raised? Because it's primal/innate? I don't know, but it's powerful, and ITA with you -- I can't imagine efficiency/beauty/convenience is what would dominate.
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I've been pregnant twice and hated both pregnancies. There was no part of it that I enjoyed. I would definitely be one of those women who would pay someone to be my surrogate. Pregnancy is an amazing experience for some and torture to others. I don't think this would be mainstream, but could be a good alternative for some people.
[ Reply | Options ]But would you have done it BEFORE getting pregnant? In other words, you know now that you had a horrible experience (after having gone through it). How would you make the decision before knowing you personally had it bad?
[ Reply | Options ]Honestly, I would have gone the surro route even before I got pregnant. Always wanted kids but hated having no control over my body for 12 months (pregnancy + recovery). I would have to know that the surro method would ensure a healthy environment for my baby.
[ Reply | Options ]interesting! And you would feel like you could trust a surrogate to be a healthier environment than your own body?
[ Reply | Options ]i'm with you OR. two awful pregnancies. i suppose I would have tried it the first time, but definitely not the second (even though that one was slightly more bearable). if i could do this i may consider a third, but never want to be pregnant again. if the surrogate could be my husband than i'm first to sign up!
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I agree and feel the same way about woman who chose c-sections instead of regular birth when their is no medical need for one. Some woman said that they wanted it because they wanted their baby born on a certain day or b/c they didn't want to stretch out 'down there.' There is too much stock in vanity today despite the fact that woman have been having babies naturally since the world began. I don't like woman who seem proud of c-sections b/c of artificial reasons or concerns about themselves. Of course if there is a REAL medical reason than okay but 75% of the people I know that have ever had one had either vanity or a scheduling conflict that resulted in them wanting a c-section.
[ Reply | Options ]I disagree that elective c-sections are along the slippery slope to on-demand surrogacy. C-sections, even when elected for what you consider trivial reasons, do not involve using another woman, who often has much less money and many fewer options, to gestate your baby. I hated hated hated being pregnant, but would never choose the emotional complications surrogacy evolves. A scheduled c-section, on the other hand, was absolutely what was best for my baby and me. And stretching out 'down there' had nothing to do with my decision.
[ Reply | Options ]np: I'm glad to read that other women don't like being pregnant. I always hear such glowing stories of pregnancy. I not a fan, but I kind of felt alone in that opinion.
[ Reply | Options ]how old are you? All my friends and I were 35+ when pregnant; children dearly wanted. Very few -- even the yoga divas-- pretended that pregnancy wasn't ten months of nausea, swelling, and flatulence. I thought uncomfortable pregnancies might be a symptom of 'advanced maternal age', but my mother told me all her pregnancies, starting at age 24, were similar. So maybe my circle of friends are more honest/complaining than many . . . .
[ Reply | Options ]I'm 35 and pregnant. Was 30 with 1st pregnancy. I know women my same age and they seem to like it. Honestly I didn't have difficult pregnancies, but still don't seem to like or love it like some people I know. I like knowing I'm going to have a baby and I'm very thankful for my kids. But that glowing wonderful I love every moment of this look that some people have I just can't relate to.
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I had two C-sections for medical reasons. The first was after waiting 20 days past due date, being induced, 48 hours of labor then haveing a c-section and giving birth to a 10 lb baby. I'm 5;3" and 110 lbs. Damage was irreversible of carrying such a large child so late. My story is not that uncommon, and I wish could have opted for an elective C-section the week before due date because I knew it would go like that. I'm guessing you had relatively easy births so
[ Reply | Options ]Actually I did not. My birth was not easy. I did have a small baby but was 3 days late and after 9 hours of labor had only gotten to 2 cm. Not only that but my baby was only 6 pounds and I had a 4th degree tear that required 4 sets of stitches inside and out. I was in pain for days and unable to walk or get in and out of bed by myself. However, I would do it all over again and plan to have the next one vaginally too. Don't you read the responses carefully b/c I stated "of course if there is a REAL medical reason that is okay" I am not taking about people who actually have reasons I am talking specifically about people who do it for vanity or selfish reasons, this does not apply to every person who has ever had one.
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I think there is a lot of research yet to be done on the impact of the mother (or surrogate) on the fetus' development. I don't think a baby's personality is solely genetics, i think it must be affected to some extent by maternal behaviors as well. Since I am a control freak, I would want the baby in me so I would have full assurance that the baby was in a good environment at all times. But i have thought a LOT about surrogacy...i want 2 kids close in age, and it would be much nicer if i had 10 months to recuperate with my hubby and child, rather than getting immediately preg again. the only other thing stopping me is trying to explain to my MIL why she couldn't come to the hospital...i know...but if she didn't know, and i completely truste...
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[-]18 month old DC slipped out of his second plaster splint in two days -- supposed to be protecting his fractured left foot -- xrays negative. Now he can weightbear with little pain. ER says to come back. The foot seems much better. Anyone with experience with a "fractured" toddler foot? TIA!
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[-]Excuse me if this is too gruesome for UB (back in the day I could've posted inside!), but how does one, uh, "prepare" for a**l sex?
23 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]imo, a lot of the prep is mental. you also need lube. my suggestion is also to do it with a condom, even with monogamous partner/dh because you shouldn't switch back and forth between anal and vaginal. that way do vaginal w/o condom, get all "juicy" then have him put on condom for anal, and he can just take it off to switch back to vaginal. i find it super hot but can only "take it" a few times a year.
[ Reply | Options ]Probably lots of clitoral and nipple stim, plenty of lube and something smaller than a penis in there first, while you're getting worked up. If you've had some smaller sized anal stimulation and then it's taken away, you'll find yourself wanting it back. Lots of lube is a definite.
[ Reply | Options ]i agree about the clitoral and nipple stim, but for me a finger(or other object) in my ass felt gross and clinical, although the first time i did it i was primed first with a finger. now, i can go straight to d*ck in ass after good foreplay and vaginal sex without a finger in ass first.
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a long time ago I swore that it was exit only. Then I became more opened minded. Now I love anal. I can only enjoy anal if a have a vibrater on my clit. He knows that it wont happen if I'm not being pleased also. When I cum I want him to go deeper and then he cums. Of cours dh is gentle with the foreplay. He's excited that we have a kinky new way to enjoy sex.
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not to be too gross, but don't do it soon after you have gone #2. i always thoroughly wipe with baby wipes beforehand. i've heard some do enemas, but i don't think it's necessary. the more important thing is to clean well afterward to make sure no booty juices travel to the vajayjay.
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i hate it...first time felt like i got stabbed in my gut..we haven't tried again, but i know he's into it...so i feel like trying again, cuz i want to make him happy...i sort of wish it was still stigmatized as a 'gay' thing cuz then i know DH wouldn't be into it. But years of porn have made his mind think it's a turnon...blech..
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I'm not even sure that it is legal for them to do so. I know there is a Supreme Court case that held they have a right to get married, but it didn't discuss divorce. Hmm.
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i didn't ask can they, but do they. i don't think so. i think their unions are stronger and thus last forever.
[ Reply | Options ]np: are you serious? you realize that they are human, right? and what about all of the interracial couples that never get married, but have a kid and then break up? what about their unions?
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I know two couples that divorced, and one of them were interracial. God you'e so weird... and patronizing... and a little racist.
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np: when you assume something of people, based on their race, it is racist. even when the stereotype is positive, it is racist. they are people, they are not defined by their race. interracial couples are human, with human flaws, just like any other sort of couple!
[ Reply | Options ]Because it assumes that interracial couples are "special" somehow. Like they're not like any other couple. Just because it's not a negative per se, doesn't mean it's not racist, since you're still making judgements and assumptions based on race.
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in all seriousness, the rate of divorce for interracial couples is actually lower than for couples of the same race.
[ Reply | Options ]^^ I'm in an interracial marriage, and I know that for us and for other couples I know, one thing that happens is that when you're dating because you're interrcial you just communicate on a different level and you take your relationship more seriously because you have to deal with some external and internal stuff that others don't necessarily have to deal with.
[ Reply | Options ]many couples who are not in a biracial relationship take those relationships seriously.
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Do you seriously believe this? OK, I'm in an interracial marriage for the last 13 years and I can honestly say before we got married we didn't have any conversations about it. We just saw each other for who we are. It wasn't any big discussion with our families either. They both could care less what race we are, as long as we're happy. Now this might how something to do with the fact that both my husband and I had dated people of many different races before we got married so race was no thing to us.
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I'll bite. I am not in an inter-racial marriage perse, but in an inter-cultural marriage. I think for those that date and marry outside of their and their family's comfort zones, you have to really love the person to deal with all the surrounding noise. My wife was told that our marriage would never last because we aren't the same religion, and both my mother and grandmother flat out told me I shouldn't marry my wife. We are now in our 6th year of marriage with 2 lovely children
[ Reply | Options ]We are in our mid-30s and many of our friends/family/acquaintances are getting divorced. I guess the point is that a lot of people who marry others from very similar backgrounds may be doing so just to please family or take the easy road. Dating someone of another ethnicity/background/race takes a lot of guts, and marrying them even more so.
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[-]DH taking myself and dd on Royal Caribbean cruise to Mediterranean in May, DD will be 25 months. Cruise to Rome, Florence, Barcelona, Cannes, Monaco. Anyone been on cruise and anyone leave their dc in the care of the cruise daycare facility? I've never been on cruise and travel agent talking up ability to leave child with providers but don't know if this is okay or not for a toddler. Any experience with this will be greatly appreciated. TIA
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[-]My dd (who is almost 2 1/2) weighs 24 pounds, which isn't bad but puts her in the 10% tile for weight. However, she recently got over the flu and wasn't eating well so she lost a few pounds. The flu is gone but she hasn't gotten her appetite back yet. She has NEVER been a good eater but it seems so much worse, especially with the drop in weight all the sudden. Everyone tells me not to worry but she is so thin that sometimes I get concerned. She is really active and plays all day but doesn't need much to sustain herself. I worry because at 2 I think she should be in the 25% tile in the least. Everybody makes rude comments about how I don't feed her and people saying inappropriate things.
69 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Are you and dh thin? Also, when you say you have this expectation that dd should be "at least 25%tile for weight, why is that? The whole point of %tiles is that they represent the normal range for weight. So, 25% of normal kids weigh less than the 25%tile. People suck -- don't let their dumb comments screw with your head or happiness.
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See, you are doing it too. I have to listen to people saying things like this allllll dayyyyyyyy. I teach my older kids to never comment on some else's body. It can hurt feelings.
[ Reply | Options ]I hear you. My 7 month old is a tad under 15 lbs. Have to hear constantly 'oh so little. How old ???!!' My bf had a larger baby and she always heard 'so big ... wow !' It's just amazing how people think they can comment on your kids' bodies, to thier moms, in a way that they would never do to an adult
[ Reply | Options ]Yeah, I was aware I was doing it. I would be concerned if I were you but then again I work in the area of EDs and we see girls as young as 8 with issues, whose mothers said there were early indicators as children. They are realizing so much is biologically based these days. I agree with the pediasure recs but I'm not sure what you can do if she won't drink it. Good luck to you.
[ Reply | Options ]Of course we are concerned, but what can we do? I am seriously considering squirting syringes of double cream into dc's mouth, but then that would definitely give them an ED..no one can make a 2yo eat if they decide they are not hungry.
[ Reply | Options ]hmmm...tell us her favorite foods and maybe we help you think of how to lace them with more calories.
[ Reply | Options ]Thanks..... Fish. Cheese sticks, but only mozzarella, and she only likes the skim ones. Chickpeas. Grapes. Vitamins.
[ Reply | Options ]Hmm...short list. Does she know they are skim by taste or because she sees that they are. Ie, if she thought it was skim but it wasn't, would she reject it? Can you put sauce/olive oil or will she not eat that?
[ Reply | Options ]She wants the ones in the organic cow packet. I tried buying another full fat brand and slipped them into the other packet, but she said they tasted yucky. I smother everything in butter.
[ Reply | Options ]Have you consulted with anyone about her eating habits? It might be worth it since she seems to have such a limited diet and isn't taking in much fat. If those are the only foods she eats, that really is a short list. If I were you, I'd much rather involve someone now when her habits are more easily influenceable. Good luck.
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some kids are just picky eaters - my son never ate anything but white food (rice, bread, etc) and while it annoys me he is perfectly healthy and never gets sick. Two of my others just don't like chocolate, candy or cookies while their siblings do and there is hardly a pound difference between them.
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If you work in the area of ED's, then why would you deliberately say something like this? A little weird.
[ Reply | Options ]Because this seems like a dangerously low weight, which OP said makes her concerned. I agree with her concern and in an effort to support her motivation to address the issue, want to reinforce for her that this is a serious issue, which she obviously already knows. Since I already know she'll have the posters who say "it's no big deal, somebody's gotta be in the 10th percentile"...it might very well be a big deal.
[ Reply | Options ]If you want to reinforce our paranoia, then why do it in such an aggressive and bating way? Why not just show some understanding and concern, instead of Yikes! then pointing out what a perfect weight your dc is. I am glad you are not treating my dc, since you have very unusual and bitchy methods of reinforcement.
[ Reply | Options ]So far I seem to be the only one actually offering any concrete advice and asking follow up questions in order to provide advice. But thanks for the feedback.
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No because I actually know what I'm talking about, unlike a poster who is saying she eats healthy.
[ Reply | Options ]Look, sorry to labor this point, but why on earth would you say Yikes, my 9mo db is 22lbs, as a way to answer a post which is saying how hurtful those sorts of comments are. Maybe you do know what you are talking about, but my point is that you have a pretty awkward, thoughtless and obnoxious bedside manner. I hope you are not this way at your ED day job.
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Please, people naturally comment on anything unusual. People are always telling me that i'm so skinny or that my 6'5 brother is so tall. Obviously it's not meant in a mean-spirited way so you shouldn't take it as such. When i was younger, my mom would never get offended about people saying i was so skinny, she used to just laugh it off saying "i don't know where the food goes" or "it's from my husband's side." If she had acted upset, I would've internalized that there was something wrong with me. As long as your daughter is healthy, it doesn't matter if she is small or that people comment on it.
[ Reply | Options ]Are you serious? Commenting on a baby's weight is a body image issue concern for you?
[ Reply | Options ]ITA. It goes the other way too--my 11 yr old dd is very tall (as am I) and she gets comments all the time about how tall she is--from parents more than kids. Even things like 'wow, you are really tall--I saw you in the Christmas concert and you were towering over the girl next to you!) Not much sensitivity. So I sympathize with you... if your dr is not concerned, then I wouldn't worry... is she a picky eater or just eats small amounts?
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Are you by any chance asian? My 1/2 Chinese dd was never above the 5% tile but my ped said not to worry bec the charts are based on American caucasians. She is a teenager now and completely fit and tho trim not overly thin.
[ Reply | Options ]Funny. I had always heard that the charts were skewed the other way - that they took a good cross-section of American into consideration and so Caucasian children might typically seem really big on the growth charts. However, I also have read that they are based on formula-fed babies who tend to gain weight more rapidly in the first six months of life or so and that also can be misleading about what is "average".
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OP here: Sorry I was putting dd to bed, didn't realize how fast I would get responses. I try not to worry as my family is very thin, my mom didn't weight over 100 pounds until she hit 40 and my 6'5" brother only weighs around 150 pounds. My dd is in the 90% tile for height at 3 feet tall also, which makes her look even thinner. All she ate today was 1 egg, a nutri-grain bar, half a pb&j sandwich, a few chicken nuggets and that's it. I try to give her fattening snacks that are not to filling but she is so busy playing, she never eats much. I also worry b/c there is an obesity factor on my dh's side so I don't necessarily want to get her addicted to fattening foods, it's like walking a tightrope. She sleeps fine, 12 hours a night, and had mor...
[ Reply | Options ]Actually, for a 2.5 yo, that sounds like a pretty good day of food (I think most are pretty darn light eaters - mine was anyway). Just missing the milk. Does she drink her milk?
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Don't worry about dd, OP. Sounds like what my 2.7 year old eats on any given day. DD also looks very skinny/loses weight when sick--pedi said this is normal & just more noticeable with kids who don't have a lot of extra padding. She weighs 28 lbs now, but 5 of those pounds came on in the last 7 months! She's always been a VERY picky eater (she never had that chubby infant stage where they eat everything!) and if you can believe it, she only weighs 8 lbs more than her 7-mo-old sister... just goes to show, all kids are different. Some pointers for fattening up the food: 1) add a bit of heavy cream to scrambled eggs 2)peanut/almond/sunflower butter 3) if she eats yogurt, only do the greek, full-fat yogurt--add whatever needed to make it palata...
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Sounds like she eats a normal amount as long as she is also getting her milk / cheese / yogurt. Also, veggies. My picky eater loves his veggies when I keep them simple with a little browned butter on them. Steamed broccoli or green beans... sometimes asparagus or artichokes. I also saute zucchini in olive oil and he gobbles them up.
[ Reply | Options ]My Ds didn't hit 30 lbs until he was 3.6. He was always too busy playing and exploring the world to stop to eat. Despite being in the 10-15th percentile for weight, he's high energy and smart. That is to say that his physical and mental development was not hindered and really that's all that matters. It's hard not to worry, but they will eat when they are hungry.
[ Reply | Options ]My dd is 26 pounds at 3. I've never worried because I'm really small-boned and naturally low-weight too, though I eat a lot, so I figure she just got my genes. I think it's great that she gets to wear her clothes for a long time (still in some 24 month clothes), and hopefully she won't have to struggle with weight issues when she's older too. She was a fat baby, and I'm sad to say good-bye to those cute chubby thighs, though!
[ Reply | Options ]I agree with the poster who said to listen to your doctor. My little daughter wasn't 20 pounds until she was 2 and a half (we waited FOREVER to turn the car seat around). Likely your dd is just little and recovering from a bad flu. signed, mom whose dd would eat a handful of cheerios and that is it for a meal when she was little!
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Nice to see there are so many other parents out there with my problem. DS is 2yrs and I've been stressing non-stop about his weight @ 22lbs. He is half asain (filipino) and have wondered if that has anything to do with it. He's a terrible eater and can do days eating only strawberries. Tonight I was happy he was actually eating - then he got sick everywhere!
[ Reply | Options ]my ds was the same at 2 yrs. i tried avocado, hummus, smoothies, pediasure and served everything with butter & cream... but he had no patience for sitting down and eating and would only last about 5 minutes. i had to get up and run after him with the food as he wandered around and did other htings. i worried about giving him bad habits, but the important thing was that he put on weight. he's 4 now and sits and the table w/o any prob.
[ Reply | Options ]dd is 24 lbs now at 17 months and i feel like she never eats, was worried she is small. less that 25th percentile.
[ Reply | Options ]np: there is nothing wrong with 25th percentile. my ds weighed a little over 24 lbs at 18months and is perfectly healthy. meanwhile, i recently stopped stressing about his eating and he is eating so much more and it seems like he is gaining weight before my eyes. unless she has been dropping in percentile a lot, don't worry.
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[-]anyone else have a serious problem with their dh's bald spot? how do you stand to look it the shiny head?
23 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]my dh is incredibly kind, smart, sexy and funny, a great father and a wonderful husband. the fact that he is thinning on top doesn't even register on me. sheesh, op, priorities.
[ Reply | Options ]ummm, i am sure that you have issues too. and he probably overlooks them, because you have to except imperfections in a mate... and aging is going to happen.
[ Reply | Options ]sounds to me like you have a problem with DH, not his bald spot. otherwise you would easily be able to look past it.
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[-]bookmom/playing librarian here. Anyone need any book recs? Tell what you enjoy reading and we'll give new suggestion. Or for your kids (give gender,age,fave books).
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girl, 5, ready to be read good chapter books - but probl too young for Secret Garden, etc? Other than Ramona the Pest, what is there?
[ Reply | Options ]Try Mrs Piggle Wiggle, The BFG by Dahl, Mr. Popper's Penguins. And have you read her My Father's Dragon series yet? If you both have stamina, try The Last of the Really Great Whangdoodles, too.
[ Reply | Options ]np--Rumer Godden has small chapter books that are well-written. My dd loved Mouse House and The Story of Holly and Ivy. The latter is a Christmas story. There are also the Jenny and the Cat Club books by Esther Averill. Also, don't leave picture books behind at this age. There are wonderful books (William Steig's Brave Irene; Helga's Dowry by Tomie De Paola, and Elsie Piddock Skips in her Sleep by Eleanor Farjeon have great heroines, for example.)
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6yo boy, interested in the darker side of life but hasn't been exposed to much mainstream media, trying to find gentle ways to introduce him to scarier things, not even close to ready for HP
[ Reply | Options ]I'm going to repaeat a few suggestions from above: My Father's Dragon is a good start for fantasy..not too heavy and try Dick King Smith's The Waterhorse. Dahl has a wicked sens eof absurdity..like a naugthy school boy. The BFG is one of my favorites by him. And if you haven't tried it yet, how about CXharlotte's Web. These are all books for you to read together.
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2.3 yo girl, totally digs Bartholemew (sp?) and the Oobleck, Where the Sidewalk Ends, The Missing Piece Meets the Big O, Yertle the Turtle. We've also done Blueberries for Sal so many times she's bored.
[ Reply | Options ]op: lots of classics! Try The Rain Came Down, The Dragon Machine, Bats at the Beach (and Bats at the Library), The Reluctant Dragon,The Gardner, Miss Bindergarten Gets Ready for Kindergarten by Slater(fun rhymes and letter sounds and great before starting pre-school) and of course, Caps for Sale
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6 yo liked Harry Potter (1&2), Chronicles of Narnia, Little House series, Wrinkle in Time. Did not love Pippi Longstocking. Is interested in Ella Enchanted, Little Princess, loves Bow to the Moon and Trumpet of the Swan. What else? TIA!
[ Reply | Options ]The Ordinary Princess by MM Kaye, All of a Kind Family by Sidney Taylor, Betsy Tacy By Lovelace, Igraine the Brave and if you have good stamina for a much longer book Dragon Rider (both by Funke)
[ Reply | Options ]Thank you!! I heard about Percy and Olympian? Is that a good book? Dc reads independently but likes longer books now and is into fantasy. Or about animals in fiction.
[ Reply | Options ]OP This book works much better for an older kid as it deal with middle school issues. I bet she would love Mrs Frisby and the Rats of NIMH, but again. pretty long and complicated Other fun fantasy that is still age appropriate: Indian in the Cupboard, Tales of Deperaux, Eddie Eager's books (starting with Half Magic). I'll re-emphasize Sisters Grimm Series. And consider Gregor the Overlander.
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OP: a few ideas for you. If you were intrigued by "circus" life, Geek Love is a classic, but a bit freaky about a family where the parents intentionally create children to be in the Freak show. If you prefer historical fiction , try Loving Frank....about Frank Lloyd Wright and his Mistress, from her perspective. For an interesting outlier..a bit Dickensian, but much easier to read, try The Good Thief by Hannah Tinti
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Rec. for me. I love Phillip Roth - especially Everyman, American Pastoral. Would like something along those lines...
[ Reply | Options ]op: I love Roth also. My personal fave is THe Plot Against America (not typical Roth, I know), followed closely by American Pastoral. Have you read any Richard Russo? I rec. Bridge of Sighs. Great family saga. YOu might also consider The Story of Edgart Sawtelle. I was surprised at how much I enjoyed this books (desite being an Oprah pick). Updike is a natural choice for you as well. If you haven't read his Witches of Eastwick, do so. Nothing like the silly movie it inspired.
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[-]Westport CT moms - Does anyone know the going rate for a daytime occasional babysitter for 2 kids (baby to toddler)? W/e evening babysitter? Housekeeper (really cleaning lady) who comes 1x/week to a 4bd house?
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[-]A preschool called to schedule an interview. I did not take the first date offer which was a week away but instead scheduled one a month away on a day that is more convenient for me. Now I feel bad that the later interview date may hurt DC's chance. Does it really matter?
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i took the latest interview dates i could get at the schools i was most interested in--i figured by then dd would have more practice at the play visits (or if it were just an interview for me, i'd have a better sense of what i wanted to ask, etc.). it worked out great and dd was accepted by 7 schools. so don't sweat it, it can work out for the best.
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[-]I went on a job interview this past weekend(nanny). I loved the family and am really praying I get the job. They said they had a few interviews lined up will make a decision by the end of this month. I am still with my current employer and she told me she hasn't been contacted yet for a reference. Do you think that is a bad sign( that they haven't called my references yet) ?
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[-]Seeking Advice: I am a SAHM with a 27 month old and 13 month old. They are generally healthy boys, but the 13 month old was in the hospital for 2 days (Sun night-Tues pm) for bronchiolitis. We are now treating at home and all is going well, he's getting better. Had a follow up with pedi on Wed and he saw fluid in ear. Today's follow up the fluid was still there and cloudy. no infection, no redness. the pedi left it up to us if we want to treat now or if it becomes infected (I have a script). I'm torn as I don't like medicating unless necessary, but he's been through a lot and don't want him to be uncomfortable when I can prevent it. Neither of the boys have had an ear infection and I have no experience with this. WWYD?
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]OP: thanks. I forgot to say 2 things...she did mention that if it was her child she probably would treat...but less due to the symptoms and more because he has been sick and he's not 100%. also, she did not request another follow-up appt for the bronchiolitis, so unless he has symptoms of the ear infection we probably won't be back for a few weeks (to get his flu booster). if I do start treating, we would have to go back 2 weeks after to make sure it all went well.
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[-]i have the worst dandruff--it is just gross and I am mortified
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[-]Do you think it really makes any difference if you interview with the DOA, let's say at HM, collegiate, or someone else??
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[-]So when people name their kid Atticus, they're doing it because they loved T.K.A.M.B, right? Not just because they heard it and think it sounds cool?
72 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I think so, I considered it bc I LOVED that character. My dh talked me down, though.
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No, they're doing it because they're pretentious twats and think the name sounds "important" or something.
[ Reply | Options ]I don't think the parents of the Esme's I know have heard of the Salinger story.
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Wasn't about the book for me, though it didn't hurt certainly. I just loved the name.
[ Reply | Options ]atticus has a history longer than tkamb, and it is a cool-sounding name. all valid reasons to choose it
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[-]i got an email from Obama-I donated and now I get email updates from his people--the subject line was Sarah Palin and they used the word liar and the word dangerous--so a few things--fear mongering as a tatic to get the dems in line--i don't condone it, second of all-the more you keep talking about Palin the more of a threat she will become and third I would really rather the president talk about the merits of the programs instead of his people using this as a tactic. I think it lacks courage.
33 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I don't believe for a second that was an official email. Why don't you post that email here?
[ Reply | Options ]Right now, Sarah Palin is on a highly publicized, nationwide book tour, attacking President Obama and his plan for health reform at every turn. It's dangerous. Remember, this is the person who coined the term "Death Panels" -- and opened the flood gates for months of false attacks by special interests and partisan extremists. Whatever lie comes next will be widely covered by the media, then constantly echoed by right-wing attack groups and others who are trying to defeat reform. As we approach the final sprint on health reform, we can't afford more deception and delay. We need to be ready for anything -- and have the resources to respond with ads, events, and calls to Congress when the attacks come. So we're setting a big goal:...
[ Reply | Options ]: $500,000 in the next week to help push back against Sarah Palin and her allies. Please chip in $5 to help reach our goal.
[ Reply | Options ]https://donate.barackobama.com/page/contribute/dnc08Palin?source=20091119_MS_Palin_nd_inact&returnlink=false
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np: I believe you but everything in the e-mail you received is 100% accurate, unlike the words coming out of Palin's mouth. I get annoyed that the dnc keeps asking for money, but I like that they are truthful in their e-mails, unlike the ones from the RNC.
[ Reply | Options ]OR: Sorry, i stepped away. I do believe you now--but from what you had said, I expected a different sort of email entirely. I don't believe that is fear mongering. Unfortunately, I think the misinformation they are referring to--the "death panels" and false characterization of what is in the bills--is dangerous. I certainly think that the president should focus on the merits of proposed programs, but when blatant lies are being bandied about--and spread in the national media, by those who should know better--I agree that those lies must be addressed.
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id on't see anything wrong with calling her a liar or dangerous, nor with taking her seriously since she's clearly priming herself for a run in 2012. worse would be to brush her off as a harmless annoyance imo.
[ Reply | Options ]it is petty and beneath the dignity of the president, whether it is done by his office or his proxies.
[ Reply | Options ]but it's not beneath the dignity of someone clearly running for president to call the president a liar and dangerous?
[ Reply | Options ]you evaluate the merits of a candidate and how they act is absolutely worthy of consideration. Once in office, however, you should comport yourself with the dignity afforded the office.
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palin was still in office when she made up the death panel lies. or is the office of governor not afforded any dignity?
[ Reply | Options ]I don't know whether she was or wasn't, as I do my best to pretend she doesn't matter. Nevertheless, the presidential office shouldn't be operating on her level, should it?
[ Reply | Options ]are you high? it's not the presidential office, it's the dnc. and i don't see what you quoted as dirty politics or a smear campaign. it's all fact.
[ Reply | Options ]didn't realize it was the dnc. That is exactly who should be sending out this stuff. I had my panties in a twist when I thought it was another instance of overreaching, akin to the WH press office lashing out at Edmunds when it criticized the auto bailout program.
[ Reply | Options ]fact? it is interpretation and it is beneath the office of the president. Remember? New politics? Not the same old Washington crap?
[ Reply | Options ]np: would anybody dispute this? That she made that false death panels statement and that the claim was then widely covered by the media? "this is the person who coined the term "Death Panels" -- and opened the flood gates for months of false attacks by special interests and partisan extremists. Whatever lie comes next will be widely covered by the media, then constantly echoed by right-wing attack groups and others who are trying to defeat reform."
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